Monday, 04 April 2011
A commenter on my last post brought up an interesting idea. She mentioned that being a SAHM ends your real opportunities as an independent woman in the world.
I challenge that I am still an independent woman despite the fact that I am a SAHM. Now, I'm sure people will disagree with me because we all have different priorities and view the world differently from each other.
However, I contend that working mothers (some, not all) often times hire childcare & sometimes even a Merry Maid to maintain their homes. Aren't they relying on others? Doesn't that mean that they are depending on someone just as a SAHM depends on her husband to continue earning income?
Let's face it, in this economy not everyone has the job security they would like. I'm sure it is possible that one or both parents in a home could be laid off which could result in financial crippling of a family.
I don't really believe that a woman is less independent because she is a SAHM. SAHM's are often times responsible for balancing the financial budget, cooking, cleaning, shopping, taking care of their children (some of us choose to also educate our children at home), as well as take care of ourselves & help our husbands out with things. So let's see, that makes a SAHM an accountant, cook, maid, assistant, childcare provider (sometimes teacher), wife & independent woman.
Let me clarify - I am in no way, shape or form knocking down working mothers. Working mothers deserve their kudos for sure (especially all the single working mothers out there - you are all awesome for what you have to do for your children & yourselves & I realize it is difficult). However, this was just in response to a comment I saw and I thought it was an interesting point of view.
Now as far as the opportunities go, I acknowledge that they are reduced when you're a mother. Employers worry about your focus affecting productivity as well as mothers needing sick days not only for themselves but their children.
I understand the essence of what the commenter was trying to say and I am in no way arguing the point, but I do disagree with the wording that it "ends" opportunities. What I focused on in that sentence was the "as an independent woman in the world" part of the sentence and I wanted to ask anyone who reads this what their thoughts were on that idea that was presented in the sentence.
Working mothers, do you feel that your real opportunities in the world of business ended once you became a mother? Share your experiences.
Stay-at-home mothers, do you feel that you're still an independent woman? Do you feel that your opportunities have ended as a result of your choice to be a mother and a stay-at-home mother especially?