Sunday, 03 April 2011
Today is my mom's birthday. She doesn't want to celebrate it. She said no special dinner, no cake, no nothing. She doesn't feel like celebrating. She doesn't want to. She's sick.
My brother and his family all just moved 12 hours away. A year ago they got kicked out of their home and forced to leave the country in which they resided. My youngestbrother is refusing to nurse and so she had to start pumping again. She just doesn't want to celebrate any of it.
Here's all the ways I'm NOT celebrating her birthday:
- Me being me got her a present like 2 weeks ago and have been waiting to give it to her. I was semi-crestfallen when I realized she didn't want her birthday. I asked if I could still give her her present. She nodded. My sister said, "put a happy mother's day card on it!" I told her I'll put a "Thanks, mom, for life!" card on it.
- I told her I would make her breakfast in bed. I asked her what she wanted and what time she wanted it. I said she was sick and was going to stay in bed all day.
- That there was going to be a lie-in Tomorrow in which we do nothing but watch all her favourite chick flicks *including* the 6 hour BBC version of P&P (because whats a movie-thon without it?!)
- I also told her since she was sick that I would do Vision's therapies with him. I told her she just needs to relax, stay in bed, and try and feel better.
Those are the ways that I am NOT celebrating her birthday. It's just going to be a Friday *cue Rebecca Black* in which we appreciate all things horizontal and lying (lying down not telling falsehoods).
At first I was kind of at a loss not knowing what to do when someone doesn't want to celebrate the one day that is supposed to be all about them. But then I understood her not wanting to celebrate it, not being in the mood. And realized she just needs to be loved. And so tomorrow, I'm going to love my mom.
How do you care for someone who is down? Have you ever just not felt like celebrating? Did you have someone who understood that and was simply there for you?