Saturday, 02 April 2011
I was reading a blog that Momaroo had published http://www.momaroo.com/744358272/kids-having-kids-is-trendy-in-my-circle/ and I came across one of the most ignorant opinions I've encountered. Here's the direct quote:
"It's hard to support someone with so much potential (which could be applied to greater causes) wasting it on motherhood. I have no problems with anyone becoming a mother, obviously SOMEONE has to do it but I don't think people under 25 should really be the ones to do it."
Now, I won't go pointing fingers and naming them (you can clearly read it yourself there unless they delete it at some point in the future) but I was flabbergasted. I guess I shouldn't be because people do say some of the most ridiculous things online.
I should say that my mom was a SAHM (stay at home mom). I enjoyed the security that gave me as a child. I always knew that someday I wanted to be a mother and give that same sense of security to my children.
I did, however, as a teenager truly want to be a lawyer. Eventually that changed and I wanted to be a social worker. I'm very sensitive towards children though & as much as I would have loved to do that job & help children I didn't think I could emotionally handle some of the heinous situations children are put in and have to confront some of these head on (thank God there are those who can do this).
Then I thought of being a teacher but that came after I had to leave college due to lack of funding. So I worked as a cashier for a couple years until I found work as a childcare provider/assistant preschool teacher. A stressful job at times but also very rewarding and I enjoyed it most days.
Then I became a SAHM after working daycare for three years. I do not feel at all that I lack ambition or drive or goals just because I WANTED to become a mother, especially a sahm. I find it insulting that someone would have the nerve to proclaim motherhood a waste.
Parenthood is what shapes future generations. Without motherhood the person who made that ignorant comment wouldn't be here - none of us would. Mothers are human and aren't perfect and some mess up more than others. However, that in no way, shape or form gives rise to the notion that motherhood is a waste.
What do all of you out there think? Is motherhood a waste or one of the most awesome responsibilities bestowed upon us as women (and the same for fatherhood for men)?