Thursday, 31 March 2011
There was a woman who always aspired to be a mother. It was her goal in life. She absolutely adored children, and was really good with them. She had all the motherly qualities. She was a good nurturer, patient, loving, and kind. She loved to cook, clean, and was the perfect housewife for her husband. He had an excellent job, making really good money. She would always keep the house clean and have dinner ready for him when he got home from work. She really loved to bake him goodies while he was at work too.
She earned money by babysitting in her home, and she loved every minute of it. Her and her husband tried over and over again to concieve and it only happened one time. She miscarried. Even after the miscarriage, they kept trying to concieve. She was diagnosed with endemetriosis. It got to the point to where she quit babysitting in her home and even seeing children playing or hearing that someone was pregnant could make her cry.
When the couple hit their mid thirties, they came to terms with the fact that children was not in the cards for them. She got her a nice little job (not involving children), and they concentrated on their husband and wife relationship. They took many vacations, and just made the best out of life with just the two of them. Her not being able to concieve, never made him walk away. He stood right by her, no matter what, even though he wanted children just as badly as she did.
There was a woman. This woman was raised by a single mother to be successful, loving, respectful, and anything else you would want your children to be. She was raised to know right from wrong. This did not keep her from living the life she chose as an adult though. She lived life as a drug addict, going from man to man. No job, no car, no respect for herself or her body. She spent all her time worrying about her next fix.
When she found out she was pregnant the first time, she did not want to give the child up. She chose to get off the drugs and raise the child herself. She gave birth to a sweet little girl and tried to follow through with her plans. Lets just say she ended up not being the mother she thought she could be. It was very unsafe for the child to continue living with her, so her sister took custody of the child.
This woman went back to her drug life. She was in and out of her sisters house and her little girl's life. Whenever she didn't have a man to support her and her drug habit, she would move back in with her sister and little girl.
This woman got pregnant a second time, and gave birth to another little girl. Custody of this child wen't straight to her sister this time. She knew she was not going to change her ways.
Then..guess what happened? She got pregnant a third time. By this time her sister was tired of it, and really did not want to take care of this third child for her. She finally agreed to take the child though, but urged her to put the child up for adoption. She then found out this child was a boy, which made the sister not want the baby anymore.
Not that she had anything against little boys, but she wasn't in the best postion financially to be raising two kids, let alone three. Well, I wouldn't say she didn't want the baby, she just knew this time adoption was the better option. She would have had to buy mostly all new stuff for the third child because it was a different gender than the first two. She finally talked her sister into giving the baby up for adoption. Makes you wonder if she ever went through with a recovery from addiction.
Lets just say some strings were pulled, and this woman came in contact with this couple, and her precious little boy was given to them. This filled the hole in their hearts, and completed their family. This little boy is their everything. They ALWAYS think of him as their biological child, although they will tell him when he is old enough to understand.
What is really crazy, is that he looks alot like them, and no one can even tell he isn't their biological child. This child has everything he needs and wants. He is spoiled and they don't care to spoil him because he is their little miracle. They don't think of him as adopted at all. He was handed to them at birth.
They get his pictures done alot, and they have so many family pictures together. They are a perfect little family. They even have a college fund for him that already has alot of money in it. I know this little boy will always feel safe, secure, and loved with this couple. No matter what choices he makes in life, he will be loved unconditionally. He is their baby, and they will always direct him toward success, and even if he deviates, they will NEVER leave him. They will NEVER let themselves fail as his parents.
I wish I could post a picture of this family. I am trying to protect their privacy though. I am just wanting to spread some light on how wonderful adoption is. If you are pregnant and considering adoption, maybe this little story will help you.
There are alot of couples wanting to adopt that are even willing to pay all of the adoption fees, like the couple from my story. You can meet these people beforehand, and even take a look into their homes. You can give interviews. You can make it to where you know where your child is going. You can have an open or closed adoption. Just remember, there are tons of options when it comes to adoption.
I don't want this post to become an abortion/adoption debate. So please don't make it that. I don't have an opinion on abortion, because I am not educated enough on the subject. However, this is what I am pretty educated on :)
Here is a shocking statistic: Declining numbers of teens placing children for adoption
- The proportion of teens placing their children for adoption has declined sharply over recent decades. (ChildTrends, 1995)
- When they become pregnant, very few teens choose to place their children for adoption. In a 1995 survey, 51% of teens that become pregnant give birth; 35% seek abortions; 14% miscarry. Less than 1% choose to place their children for adoption. (http://statistics.adoption.com/information/adoption-statistics-placing-children.html)
I do believe this is from lack of education on adoption. I just wanted to put a positive story out there.
Did you know this statistic about adoption? Do you know of successful adoption stories as well?