Wednesday, 30 March 2011
Here I am, sitting across from my fiancé holding our son because I have once again gotten to my breaking point. Parker fell asleep last night at 1 in the morning, and by 3:30 was waking up every 20 minutes until 6:30 when I gave him his bottle and he got up for the day. It is now 12:15 in the morning and I am at my wits end in dire need of a full night’s sleep.
Everyone told me by 5 and a half months he would be on a schedule. For just a pinch over 2 weeks he was on a schedule and sleeping through the night. It was pure bliss. Then he spent the night at my mom's, and since then he has never been able to follow that schedule.
I try. I really really try. But he refuses to follow one. I know one of my biggest errors is I do not have a set time we wake up in the morning. I am so exhausted that I sleep whenever I can, so if he decides to take a 3 hour nap at 10 in the morning, I take it with him.
He also is a really fussy eater. His formula is one that CANNOT be saved, so it is really risky to try and force schedule feedings on him. Some days he will eat 24 ounces total. Some days he eats 36 ounces. Some days he will take 5 bottles, some days he will only take 3. He is growing just fine so his pediatrician is not worried, but she constantly tells me how important it is to put him on a schedule. But she doesn’t exactly spill the secret on HOW I am supposed to do that.
With his acid reflux, he does not sleep well at all once he does actually get asleep. He moves around like crazy, causing him to spit out his paci and once that is out of his mouth he freaks out and will not go back to sleep unless I race and put it back in his mouth before his eyes open.
Plus, He will not sleep unless a blanket is curled around him tightly, but that makes him hot. If I try to unroll it once he does get asleep, it wakes him up. I have tried very thin blankets and having him in just a diaper or just wear a onesie, and it never fails that the heat wakes him up.
Finally, it seems as if he has night terrors already as an infant. He has started to get VERY upset and nothing will calm him down. Once he fully wakes he is fine. But even if I hold him and talk to him sweetly, he whimpers, wiggles, cries, and whines until his eyes fully open.
I have tried the routine of bath, bottle, and bed. It works and then 20 minutes later he is WIDE awake and will not go back to sleep no matter how hard I try. Not for another 2-3 hours. We basically have to play with him until he completely wears himself out and then we put him to bed for a few hours, he wakes up, and then I spent the rest of the night holding him rocking him to sleep.
I know, I should just let him comfort himself in his crib. I would be totally up for this except we live in an apartment. Parker’s cry has two volumes: LOUD, and earth shattering LOUD. No matter how much it pains me and my fiancé to hear him at 3 in the morning, I know it is 10 times more annoying for our vertical neighbors. I cannot allow them to suffer through his screams just to try and train him.
I know there are other ways to get your kid on a schedule aside from crying it out, but I don’t know any. We have tried to follow “The Best Baby on the Block” and NOTHING in that book worked for him.
I want to be able to have a time when he eats, when he naps, and at the very least sleep more than 4 hours at a time. I need to sleep more than 2 hours at a time. I knew the first couple of months I would be seriously sleep deprived, but I am not sure how much longer of this I can take.
I know, I know, a mother is always sleep deprived and blah blah blah… But seriously, I need my nights back! Even if it was just every other night. I just need some sleep, and I don’t feel like that is too much to ask for.
So I am asking, BEGGING any moms out there that had this same problem of a baby that refused a schedule and they were able to somewhat turn it around without having to resort to crying it out.
How did you do it?
Please. Anything would be most appreciated.