Tuesday, 22 February 2011

  • No Two Pregnancies Are the Same, Even on the Body!

    I'm so excited...I just can't hide it...I'm not pregnant any more! There aren't words for how good that feels!

    I've been pregnant for the past two years, and I am 150% ready to have my body back, to be able to reach my toenails again (and paint over the hideous, squished-bug purple they have been for months), to shove my mini-me and micro-me into a stroller and go for a jog without worrying about putting myself into premature labor, to wear pants that make my butt look cute, not like an escapee from a Sir Mix-a-Lot video...I am so ready for this.

     

    Now, I was left very intimidated by my body after my first son was born, and spent the few short months between pregnancies working my stretch-marked ass off to look human again. Admittedly, I wasn't so bad off--I was thin, in pretty good shape muscularly, but those awful "trophy" scars that covered me from knees to neck haunted me.

    It was fascinating to me to see different people's reactions to both my body and my own response to my body. Some people felt sorry for me, some people were inspired, some were disgusted, some were even jealous. The entire experience of just being a mom in a mom's body in a mom's world has been eye-opening, humbling, and bizarre. 

    Body when just barely pregnant w/ #1

    Body 4 months postpartum, and just barely pregnant with #2.

    With the birth of my second son came the fear of what I'd look like once again. This second pregnancy was already incredibly different, as are my two boys, but I was sure that my poor, worked, body would be even worse off than after my first. But even while pregnant, the damage was obviously different as well. 

    Taken 2 days before going into labor w/ #

    Taken just a few hours before labor w/ #2.

    With this second baby I didn't get a single new stretch mark. Not one! I checked every inch around my boobs, my thighs, I even contorted myself in front of my mirror to check more out of the way places...no new scars!

    Still, I had no idea how this would translate to my skin once the baby was out, especially with the damage from my first pregnancy.

    1 week postpartum after my first pregnancy.

    After my first was born, my stomach hung like a deflated balloon for weeks, and while it got a little better every day, I'd come to terms with the fact that I was going to live in the world of one-piece bathing suits and sex only in the middle of the night with the lights off and the blinds shut for the rest of my life. But something very different happened.

      

    Taken today, 1 week postpartum after #2.

    A year later--once again 1 week after having a baby--I'm in elated shock. The scars aren't nearly as visible as I feared they still would be. My skin isn't hanging from my body with a price-tag to sell me to the circus. I look...kinda normal.

    The human body is incredible. 

Comments (14)

  • feelslikejuly@xanga

    Thank you for sharing this with us. Did you ever try that Palm's Cocoa Butter lotion? I was wondering since I get stretch marks easily and I'm scared of what is to come when I become pregnant in the future. 

  • MJCbabyCJE@xanga

    This post gives me hope!!! Thank you!!! :)

  • eugenia@xanga

    The human body, specifically a woman's body really is amazing! I am in awe of how our bodies change and grow to give life. Congratulations on baby boy #2!!! 

  • mommashannon@xanga

    I love this post! The truth. And my stretch marks were like that with my first pregnancy too. It took years to lighten those suckers and now I'm pregnant again...lol ;) 

  • mommashannon@xanga

    @feelslikejuly@xanga - I tried and it just didn't work. Stretch marks are genetic. Moisture "may" help but won't prevent.

  • beebizzle@xanga

    @mommashannon@xanga - i shudder when i hear that they're genetic. lol. my mom didn't get them with her first, but she did with her second. i managed to escape them on my belly with my first but now i'm pregnant with my second so i'm super nervous that i'm going to get them like she did. 

  • blondiedeam@xanga

    i've never had a baby before and im not trying to be rude, but do you really get stretch marks that look like that on your first pregnancy? like that red and that painful looking?  sorry im oblivious to pregnancies so im just wondering. do most women get them like that or do some women not get them as badly?

  • mevlink@xanga
    You look INCREDIBLE, Mama!! I hope my body bounces back that fast this time!!

    @feelslikejuly@xanga - I used Palmer's cocoa butter multiple times a day my first pregnancy, but like the other poster said, stretch marks are genetic, and at least for the moment, science has not figured out how to prevent them. I made it to 36 weeks pregnant with my first and then my belly just erupted with stretch marks. Lotion really helps to prevent itching and irritation that is associated with stretch marks though, so I do recommend rubbing on lots of lotion, but any lotion will do. Don't waste your money on the expensive pregnancy stuff. I am using Target's knock-off of Vaseline Intensive Care Lotion this pregnancy. It's heavenly and only $3 or $4 bucks for a giant bottle.

  • mevlink@xanga

    @blondiedeam@xanga - Every woman is different. Some women don't EVER get a single stretch mark. Some won't get any their first pregnancy but might get them on subsequent pregnancies. But as far as I know, yes, most women get some stretch marks (if not on the belly, then perhaps on the legs, butt, thighs, or breasts). I made it until 36 weeks (out of 40 weeks) pregnant without a single stretch mark in my first pregnancy, but then I woke up one morning and it looked as if a tiger had clawed my belly overnight. But just like milkncookies, they have faded like crazy since then and so far this pregnancy (I'm 33 weeks with #2) I haven't gotten a single new stretch mark yet even though I never lost the baby weight from #1.

    Want to know what your stretch marks might look like? Ask your mom (if you're able). Stretch marks are genetic, so if your mom got them, you most likely will too. But remember that they do fade with time, as proven by this post above!

  • stellabailey

    Hi,
    I don't personally think stretch marks are a genetic thing, i've heard of stories where one woman has never had any issues with stretch marks, and yet her sister did

    Try dry brushing and stretch mark creams, Revitol stretch marks cream is one of the better ones

    Stella
    http://www.stretchmarksadvice.com

  • babixk1umzy@xanga

    You look amazing!!! Congratulations on baby #2!


    With my daughter, I never got any stretch marks, which was odd because both my mother and sister did with all their kids. I'm 17 weeks pregnant with my second and though it's still too soon to determine whether or not I'll get them this time around, I'm hoping I get lucky again.

  • OsuwarInuyasha@xanga

    You look good!

    I got stretch marks, but my stomach isn't so deflated anymore... after 3 months. At first it was still big and I called my stomach a water bed (that was my best description lol).

    I'm looking forward to being pregnant again... just waiting longer since my first child is only 3 months :)

  • sastsuki@xanga

    wow this is crazy! although im kinda scared to get stretch marks if i eever get pregnant

  • KBBxo@xanga

    omg wow. thank you for sharing this post, takes alot of guts to post pics up!

    i've never been preg before so i wouldn't know what you go through but wow, the change is def amazing.

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