Monday, 17 January 2011
My daughter just recently turned 2. She also still wakes up 2-4 times a night, and every time she wakes up she gets a bottle. In my head I know that this is so wrong, and so unnecessary but I'm stuck in a rut. I'm obviously overtired all the time because I never get more than 4 hours sleep at a time and it's just so hard to kick the habit.
It's pretty much been this way since she was born, except that the first 3 weeks I was breastfeeding and it was every hour, hence the switch to bottles. There was also about a 6 month period where a walked her to sleep every other time she woke up but that was killing me in that I was getting about 3 hours less sleep. Now I know I should have sleep trained her and established a good routine where she fell asleep on her own, not depending on a bottle.
That is completely my fault. I was thinking about right then and right then I was tired and wanted sleep. I was not thinking about a year later where she would still be waking up as if she were an infant and me still giving in to the bottles. Did I mention that we still co-sleep as well? Yeah, it's that bad.
My husband is fed up with it, he wants those bottles gone and fast. I honestly don't blame him, none of us are getting what we need, especially not our daughter. Here is the difficult part, how do I get rid of them?
We have made tentative tries, none that really deserve results but I guess we were just hoping it would be easy, obviously that's not going to happen. I have talked to her about throwing away her bottles or giving them to new babies that needed them more, that got me tears and a whole lot "No mommy, mine's baba". I spent one one day telling her periodically that she only needed one bottle at bedtime and then none until the next day. She agreed just fine with that until that night when we tried it. The first time she woke I told her she couldn't have one but instead sang a few lullabies and rubbed her back, that was fine until she realized I really wasn't going to get her another bottle. She cried off and on for 3 hours before I gave in and gave her a bottle.
A few weeks before that my husband had made an attempt, he thought she would go back to sleep for him since he doesn't usually get up with her. He spent 20 minutes in her room with her before he brought her to our bed, no bottle. She spent the next 20 minutes talking away to us, without any response other than "close your eyes and go night-night" before he got up and brought her a bottle. We seem to have a real problem sticking to what we say we are going to do.
Her bedtime routine is pretty good. She has a bath and then she gets her jammies on and we stay in her room doing light play. Then she climbs into her bed (with her bottle) and I read her 2 books, turn out the lights, sing 2 lullabies and leave. She usually wakes about for the first time around midnight and comes to our bed.
I really need a good plan before I make an attempt to take her bottle away again. Any ideas or suggestions for kicking the habit, hers and mine?