I have no agenda to push any such notion, but I believe that some women should have to pass a test before being permitted to become pregnant. Many "women" today are completely unfit to be mothers. I cringe when I see some of the status updates, pulses, and blogs that some people publish.
I’m not a mother yet, but I do know how hard it is. I was 12 years old when my little sister came along, and 13 when my baby brother came. My grandmother was dying of colon cancer only 5 months after his birth, and refusing chemo. My mother was the only one out of 12 children who was capable of nursing her at my aunt's home.
Guess who took care of the babies for over a year? That's right. I did.
And even after this, my parents were both busy with work. I took care of the kids so much that my parents decided it surpassed "being part of the family" and paid me.
So , I know what it's like to have two little kids running around. I know what it's like when the little two year old is throwing books off the shelf and screaming because she wants to watch another
movie, while the infant is screaming because his bottle isn't ready yet, and I know what it's like when they just won't go to bed after a day like that and keep crawling out of their crib for their 6th glass of water. I KNOW what it is like.
But if you can't handle that, then you shouldn’t be a mother. If you cannot handle staying at home and not going out partying; if you cannot handle not getting intoxicated or high, then you shouldn’t be a mother. No one ever said you can't have a glass of wine in the evening, or even a few cocktails, but when I see "women" posting updates about being slosh-face drunk and their child is at home, I fear for the future of humanity.
I am so proud of you for getting a babysitter, but is she going to feed your baby the next morning when you're still hung over? Apparently not, when you are blogging about last night and how the baby's crying is annoying you because your head is pounding!
I know women who were raped, brutally raped, at a young age, kept the child, pulled their lives together somehow, and lovingly mothered their children in spite of everything they felt and had gone through.
Is it difficult? OF COURSE IT IS. But it is most certainly possible to do! And if you aren't capable of loving or taking care of your child, there is always adoption. I truly believe, that in many cases, adoption would be far less cruel to the child than staying with the biological mother.
Does it really surprise any of us that we read the news about women strangling their children for interrupting their "farmville time"? I'm not surprised. I'm just disgusted.
I'm disgusted that some women don't use birth control. I'm disgusted that some women get so intoxicated you don't know who they slept with. I'm disgusted that some women get so high they can't remember to feed their children. I'm disgusted that some women sit on their computers and let their children howl and scream for attention while blogging about how much they'd like to strangle the child at that moment.
Rather than blog about how annoying the screaming is, how about playing with him instead? Take him for a walk, build something out of building blocks, bake cookies together, make a mess in the kitchen cause you let him try and measure the flour.
Parenting is HARD WORK. Kids don't follow some formulaic rule. "Mommy alone time" is not always going to be possible because your child won't always take a nap without a fight. When they're sick, it can be even worse. Trying to calm down a hysterical 3 year old with the croup is HARD WORK.
But guess what mommies? It's your JOB. It's your FULL TIME job. You think it's underpaid? If you don't consider their smiles and warm hugs and tiny hands in yours reward enough, then maybe you should reconsider becoming a mother in the first place.
Being a mom is a privilege. And I am so tired of seeing that privilege abused by women who are too selfish to step up to the plate and be a real mother.*The opinions expressed in Momaroo posts do not necessarily reflect the views of the Momaroo Team. However, we always want to encourage dialogue between readers and hope comments will be respectful.*