Monday, 20 December 2010
I’m pregnant (still in the first trimester) and trying to plan out what the baby genuinely needs, and what kind of costs to expect: one-time and monthly or continuous costs.
My husband and I are not rich, but we know we’ll be able to make it work. We aren’t looking to fill up the house with unnecessary items – for both financial and practical reasons.
I’m going through all these books and it feels like I must be an idiot, because I can’t come up with THAT much in terms of up-front items that the baby genuinely *needs*. And I might be an idiot! So I’m trying to figure this out as soon as possible so that a) I can relax!, and b) this is a somewhat higher risk pregnancy (think low-high, if that makes sense) and there’s a good chance I’ll spend the last chunk on some form of bed rest, so I may not be able to do all of this later on.
Anyway, this is what I’ve come up with so far. PLEASE let me know what to add/change/any advice!
- I will be a stay-at-home mom, and so I will not have regular child-care costs.
- I intend on breastfeeding for a minimum of six months, hopefully for a year. If this does not work out, that’s okay. When the baby is able to eat solid foods, I will be preparing the food myself instead of buying baby food (most of the time!).
- I won’t be using a stroller or carrier-style car seat. I’m partially disabled and those things will not be a help to me – likely, more of a hindrance. I intend on using a sling or wrap style carrier, and a friend of mine is also giving me a carrier-style carseat that her daughter never used (it’s brand new, less than 2 years old, meets all current safety regulations) for instances where someone else is caring for the baby and that would be more convenient.
- I don’t intend on buying a crib right away. I would prefer a bassinet or co-sleeper or something similar. I’d really prefer to bed-share, but that won’t work for us. So I want the baby next to me at night, within arms reach.
- I have a pack’n’play already because I babysit a friend’s child often and that was just more convenient than moving one around all the time.
- For health care, the baby will likely be on state insurance for a while. My insurance won’t cover any dependents, and my husband’s job does not offer insurance. I am lucky to live in an area where nearly every pediatrician accepts state insurance patients. Obviously, that will change when my husband obtains a position that offers insurance.
- I would like to have a bouncer and/or play-mat, something that is lightweight and portable to hold and occupy the baby throughout the house.
- Diapers! We’re going to use disposables. We also just got a Sam’s Club membership at a discount through my husband’s job and intend on purchasing as many supplies there as possible (I did a brief online-price comparison between Sam’s and a few other large stores, and…yay savings! Hah)
Then we obviously have to think about clothes, shoes, wipes, bath/bath supplies, bottles and eating utensils, etc.
One thing I’ve noticed - EVERYTHING says “get a changing table” but I’ve honestly never seen anyone change their baby on a changing table. In fact, the only time I’ve seen it happen was when I used one myself when I was babysitting about ten years ago, and the kids didn’t even live there. It was the grandparents’ house and the kids were visiting from out of state.
Do you use your changing table a lot? If yes, what features, etc. are important and helpful? If not, why, and where do you change your baby instead?
Basically, I’m looking for “what is necessary”, and “what is so helpful/useful/awesome it might as well fall in the necessary category.” I am definitely lucky in the respect that a great deal of my family members and cousins have recently had kids who are now entering the toddler stage, my family is very much a hand-me-down family and it has worked out fantastically for our parents and now for us.
Also, if it matters, I will be seeking to buy as much used as I can – obviously, as long as it’s not broken, unsafe, or something like that.
Okay, I think that’s it! Yes, I’m clearly neurotic, but this is giving me something to do while I wait for my first ultrasound ( :D ) and it really is giving me peace of mind as I make a list of what we will and need to purchase, how much it will cost, and begin to project the monthly costs of having a baby.
Any advice, mamas?
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