Since I became a single mom, I haven't been looking for a "replacement" boyfriend. I just go with the flow and if a good guy comes around, then good work! Besides, my daughter is #1!
I've run into some characters that have made me realize how crazy some guys my age can be and I've had to put up with my share guys like this! One guy gave me a whole story about how his son's mother left them and how he had to raise him by himself. I decided to give him a chance.
Later, I found out from a friend who knows his ex that no, she didn't abandon her son. She asked him to take care of him for a few months while she saved up money to move in a better neighborhood. He uses that story to lure girls in and has done it before... NEXT!
Another guy I had known for a while started talking to me again. He seemed nice until he started getting mad that I was putting my daughter first. Oh dear! Goodbye!
Finally, the one guy I thought would be a perfect addition to my life (as well as my daughter's) was a psychology major, nice smart, the whole 5 course meal! When I told him I had a daughter, he started ignoring me and got a pretty girlfriend the next week. UGH!
All of these experiences made me happy that its just me and my daughter. I actually used to put up with these guys and thought it was okay for them to walk all over me. Now, I've come to realize that single parents don't have to put up with this bad behavior just to have another male/female figure in the house. You can be perfectly happy being with your kid(s)!
Who knows? Maybe Mr. or Mrs. Perfect will come strolling by sooner or later.
Have you had bad dating experiences being a single mom/dad? Have guys/girls not talked to you because you have a child?