My parents became first-time grandparents this year. My niece, a baby girl, was born with jaundice but otherwise healthy. At the time of the birth, my mom started hanging out at the hospital, being there for 36 hours at a time. She would be at the hospital for a day and a half, then be home for a few hours, then go back to the hospital.
After the baby went home from the hospital, my mom started going over to my sister's house every chance she got. She already babysits every Friday, but there are weeks where she will go see the baby after work, then babysits Friday through Sunday. Babysitting for her starts at 8:30 in the morning and quite often she doesn't get home until 10 at night even though at least one of the baby's parents is home around 7:00.
I don't see my mom too often anymore.
She's usually too busy with the baby and when I do see her, she's thinking about stuff to get for the baby or she has the baby with her. At this point, I would consider her behavior concerning the baby to be borderline obsessive.
I can't tell her the behavior is obsessive though because I know she'll either deny it or say I'm just jealous and need to stop acting like a little kid. Really I just want my mom to spend time with me instead of trying to be around the baby every waking second.Any ideas how to handle this?