My ex and I have been on and off for the past year. Currently we are off, but I recently discovered I am pregnant.
We're young (both 21) but we have discussed what would happen if this situation occurred. I was always for keeping it (I just don't think I could bring myself to get an abortion) and he's always been for abortion, saying we are too young to take care of a child. He lives on his own, and I live with my father. Neither of us have money saved up for something like this.
When I told him I was late, he fully expected we were going to have a child together. I, on the other hand, didn't want to stress him out and wasn't feeling like I could go through with having a baby. Now I am not too sure.
This past week has been hell for both of us, neither of us knows what to do. I had the suspicion I was pregnant, but didn't really know until tonight. I don't want him to feel trapped into staying with me because I am pregnant, but I can't go through this without him.
I can't go to my family about this because my mother's mother just unexpectedly passed away and I can't stress her out because I fear it may harm her health, and my father's side of the family would expect us to get married before the baby, and that just isn't an option between the two of us.
None of my friends know, because I don't feel like I can talk to them without their judgment, and I don't want to face their disappointment just yet. I know how they look at all the other girls we used to know who had kids young, and I am already way to stressed out to deal with them.
Can anyone give me some words of wisdom/advice?