Sunday, 17 October 2010
Today I had an "appointment" to go talk with a friend. We set this time up last week when she emailed me and asked if we could get together to talk. This is a friend that I see fairly regularly, so for her to ask me to do this was a little different.
Of course, between last week and today I was pretty curious! When I got there today, I was somewhat surprised when she started sharing. She was having a hard time with something I had done, and was dealing with some different issues related to the situation and she honestly and gently told me how she was feeling.
We spent the next 2 hours talking through things, confessing, forgiving, crying, and laughing. It was one of the best conversations I've had with a female friend in a long time. It made me so grateful for true friends who confront in love, are willing to tackle tough issues in order to make the friendship stronger, and graciously forgive. I don't have lots of those types of friends, but God has definitely blessed me with a couple of special ones!
When I was younger, I thought that a good friendship was one where everything was always good and you never hurt or bothered one another (why are you laughing at me?!? ) I now know that a good friendship is one that can weather the storms of wrong words or actions and come out stronger on the other side.
I think that sometimes, unfortunately, female friendships can be a bit tricky. We are such emotional creatures at times, and that can affect all of our relationships in negative (and positive) ways.
My husband frequently just shakes his head at the nature of the relationships among women. He commented one time, after watching a particular television show, that, "You ladies can really be brutal to one another!" Sadly, he's right. It really makes me think about how important it is to be authentic, lovingly honest, and gentle with my friends.
Because really, who else understands my insatiable need to eat chocolate, my dislike for having to buy bras, or my sudden need to bawl at a Hallmark commercial?Have you ever had to confront a good friend about something difficult? Were you ever confronted by a good friend?