I would not say it is lonely, but it is annoying when the other moms you get together with do nothing but talk about children and child-rearing.  If I am talking with other adults, can we at least veer discussion away from children?  The whole point of get-togethers is to have adult time but it gets sucked into mommy time instead because no one is apparently capable of holding an intelligent conversation about anything else. Occasionally is fine, but does it have to be the one topic of conversations always?

I have been very lonely because not only did we move to another state right after I had my second child...but my kids were born only 11 months apart. That meant that I couldn't do a whole lot because it was very stressful to take a one year old and an infant anywhere by myself. My husband works 2 jobs(and has since we moved) so, until recently, I couldn't get out of the house much. I am starting to make some friends but it's been over a year since the kids and could get out more.

I could have written this post! I have become so anti-social in the past few years, and really gotten into a lonely "funk". I have three boys now, and my oldest is 4, and I now finally coming out of my cave and realizing that I can't complain about being lonely if I am not friendly and available...so I am an active participant in my son's preschool, I just joined our mall's kids club and our county's very large mom's meetup group...and a small "life group" at church for mom's of toddlers/babies, and I will, I WILL, get my butt out to the woman's night out! LOL...I have decided to turn things around!

SO lonely.  Many days I am DYING for adult conversation, but my husband is too busy arresting bad guys to call me.  Mostly it's my fault though...I am too much of an introvert to go out of my comfort zone and actually TALK to people. 

@drunkdevotchkababy@xanga - My
husband doesn't go out either.  We've gone to a co-worker friend's
house once before (they have a son just a couple years older than ours -
our son loved playing with him) recently - as a family.  And he has a
co-worker friend or two come over occasionally.  We're homebodies for
the most part.  We do love spending time together as a family.  Not to
mention he's tired after work for the most part. 

Now, my husband has already proven (before we moved here where we know almost nobody) that he's encouraging of me going out with friends.  However, being here for a year and not knowing any good friends I'd hang out with - I'll admit I wish I had a few good friends but I do enjoy being around my family immensely.  I'm one of those moms who doesn't mind talking about my kids even when I'm not around them.  Or listening to others about theirs.  And it's hard for me to be away from them sometimes - though I do enjoy myself after the first 10 minutes or so when I feel settled & more comfortable.  And I do sometimes get into a funk where I feel down, but I wouldn't blame that on being a SAHM.  All in all, I don't consider myself *that* lonely and I'd say it's my fault for not trying harder to get out there & meet new people - not because of the fact that I'm a SAHM. 

I think if anything, some (not all) SAHMs are in more of a position to get out there & meet new friends because they're not restricted to certain hours to go out & mix with other women and/or mothers.  I'm not obligated to stay in a certain place or be doing certain things during certain hours & days of the week.  Instead I can choose to go to the park, a playgroup or moms group like MOPS where the kiddos are in their own area doing crafts, stories, play time with other ladies.  Or even at the grocery store, etc. 

Just some food for thought. 

No Offense, BUT YOU CHOSE THAT LIFE! if you really want to be Unlonely, MAKE FRIENDS! start a book club a parenting group at the library. Get involved in your community. GO TO CHURCH churches have excellent groups to meet people apparently you have never been to one. YOU HAVE KIDS thats a start....gosh sounds this blog is written by a high schooler!

I highly, highly, highly recommend looking for a MOPS group! I love my group and have made wonderful friends through it. You can look on their website for locations. www.mops.org

you're at home all day with your kids. your husband's at work, and so are all your neighbors and friends. you're basically a slave to your family all day. My mom gave up her job to have my sister and me so we wouldn't have to have a babysitter. All our neighbors had a job and my mom would watch all the neighborhood kids. I always thought it was weird and now that i'm older I can't understand why she still doesn't just get a damn job. Like she likes having my dad take care of her and enjoys not being self-sufficient.

I think it can be lonely at times. Especially if you stay at home all the time with your kids and don't get out at all. I have lots of family nearby and I work part time, but still some days I am lonely. My hubby works a TON so that doesn't help.  I love church and Bible study activities, getting together with family and chatting on the IM with acquaintances helps combat the lonliness.  I guess I am used to be a goer and a doer and now with a little one (especially one with lots of allergies,) I am home much more than I ever was.

I'm a home maker but I do not have friends. I have always been anti-social, and actually prefer being alone. I have nothing in common with other women, other then being female.  I'm not into what girls are into (makeup, fashion, clothes, jewelry, shoes, shopping, getting hair done, etc.) and never will be even if I have a daughter.  I prefer concentrating on my family instead of sitting around chit chatting about nothing that interests me with other people.  I actually do not see the reason or the point of having friends now that I'm married.  So no I am not lonely being a home maker.

@averyswife@xanga - Don't feel bad, people that say stuff like that aren't happy with their own lives, and they're pissed that you're content with yours but finding slight difficulties from time to time. Ignore their ignorance!

Being a working mom can be lonely as well. Making friends isn't easy... esp. when you'd like to meet friends of the same faith and who have some of the same values. It is like high school actually. Certain moms turn their noses down to other moms... when I was a single mom, married moms didn't talk to me. Now that i'm married, more moms talk to me, like my ring provides a security blanket screaming "she has morals". I would love more mommy friends, but they are hard to come by. 

I was forced to become a stay at home mom (which I swore wasn't for me) after being laid off. I find it both exciting and aggrivating at the same time. People ask me constantly "how do you like being with the kids all day?". My honest answer, I LOVE it, but I really miss adult interaction and conversations!