Wednesday, 15 September 2010
I know you.
I've been you, hell I still am you. I have a two year old.
I will openly admit to having single mom syndrome. I doubt it when someone, anyone, calls me beautiful, and forget about the word "hot" (that's reserved for those skinny chicks that can still wear bikinis!). "Sexy" went away when I started gained the pregnancy weight and it hasn't shown it's face since, right? Problem is that I still long for the body I had before I was pregnant, that flat stomach and killer curves...oh man.
Here's the thing, ladies, we've changed, our bodies have changed, but we're still sexy! It took me two years to realize that even though my body is different I really am still beautiful, and guess what, so are YOU.
For a long time I wondered why guys were hitting on me.
Did they think that just because I had a kid I would put out? They'd be wrong in that thought process because I was with her father for years before I got pregnant, and he just turned out to be a jerk, so here I am.
Did they just like my post-prego boobs/butt? Well, those are a plus, but neither of those things is holding the conversation with him, I am.
It took me meeting my boyfriend to realize why those other guys were hitting on me, and I'll share that with you.
I'm a great mom, I'm beautiful (even without that flat stomach), I still have that pretty face I used to have, and, because of my daughter, I'm an independent grown up.
I spent so long doubting myself and judging my body against my old body that I didn't stop to realize that I am still beautiful, and I'm beautiful because of the changes that have occurred.
Stop telling yourself that if you lost a little more weight you'd be pretty again, that weight will go away and you will have another complaint.
Stop saying those stretchmarks need to go before you look sexy, Kat Williams said it best "They came one of two ways: either you were big and got small, or you were small and got big...Either way we f*ckin."
Now, obviously, the whole f*cking part is up to you, but the basic point is that whoever you're with, or want to be with, is going to understand that those stretchmarks came from you being pregnant, and if he can't accept your body than he's not worth your time anyway.
My point is, ladies, that you're beautiful. You need to stop doubting yourselves and start realizing that what makes you beautiful are the things you've gone through and the way you came out, stretchmarks and all.
Submitted by Momaroo Reader "PeaceandLoveAlways"