I'm not going to lie and say that parenting is wonderful - many times it downright sucks! I spend so much of my day repeating myself:
- Keep your hands to yourself.
- Don't hit your sister with that.
- Give your brother back his toy.
- Don't get up and walk around while eating.
- Go get dressed.
- No hitting.
- No throwing balls in the house...
You catch my drift?
Everyday it's the same thing; I'm a broken record. No wonder they don't listen - perhaps I should change it up!
Parenting sucks when kids get sick. It sucks when they are hurt. But I think it sucks the most when as a parent, you can't fix it
; whatever it might be.
Went to a local event this past weekend. The kids had a blast and Hubs and I were beat! It was a fun thing to do on a beautiful weekend day. Unfortunately, half our county had the same idea. There were soooo many people there.
And that's how I got to witness other kids behavior against
towards my own. And I began to think to future years; to think about middle school. Yes, it's still far away - she's only five. But, I realized that at this age, BG's brain is starting to chronicle various events from her life into the "life lessons" and "childhood" folders that are forming in her head. Events that occur from now on will
shape the person she will become. And while I can't control other children and how they affect my daughter, I certainly can control how I treat her and what I teach her.
After some reflection here are the life lessons that I think her brain folders should contain:
1) I want her to have a strong self esteem.
2) I want her to know that she is loved! Loved by God, by her brother, by her father, and by me!
3) I want her to be a woman of God.
4) I want her to never be afraid to try something new - at least once.
5) I want her to NOT be a lemming and by this I don't necessarily mean that I want her to be a leader. She can be a follower, she just has to understand all the reasons first; not just follow for the sake of following.
6) And finally, I want her to never be afraid to be herself!
I think back to my own childhood. I look back at other childhoods from people in my life and these themes are recurring. These seem to be the things that have made or broken people. And so I battle with how to teach her these ever important things?
To be honest, I have no idea. Parenting, I feel, is learning as you go and sometimes, you don't even learn the lesson until it's too late.
But I do believe in teaching by example (I know I've said this before). I want to give my kids the tools they will need so that when they encounter the mean kid at school, that they are able to stand up for themselves. That they won't be bullied and they won't try so hard to fit in that it becomes detrimental. I want them to be able to tell me things; good and bad.
So far the one thing I know will work is to keep teaching my kids about God. You can't have a strong sense of self if you don't know where you came from. Or if you don't know where you're going. I pray that all the other life lessons will fall into place in due time.
What are some of the life lessons you hope your kids will learn? Does your faith play a strong part in the way you were raised or want to raise your children?Post from Mommy Wizdom