I am new to the whole concept of trying to conceive. My daughter Hannah (now almost 17 months old) was a pleasant surprise during the one month I forgot to refill my birth control prescription on time. (Yes, you absolutely CAN get pregnant the first month off of birth control. Who knew?)
So now we are TTC #2. And I guess I should have known that it's hard (after all, my husband works in infertility), but I never really understood. It's devastating.
We've been trying since May 2, to be precise. It has become an obsession. I eat, sleep, and breath babies and what I can do to increase our chance of getting pregnant. Every pregnant woman or new mom I see feels like a punch in the gut. I know there are plenty of women out there who aren't able to have any children; I should be thankful that I already have such a beautiful toddler. I know women who struggle for years with infertility. But let's face it, each failed cycle is absolutely heartbreaking, whether it's only been a few months or a few years.
What's hardest for me is my extremely long menstrual cycles. They aren't irregular, they are just very, VERY long. I mean 45-50 days long. My body isn't shy about communicating when I ovulate, so I don't even need to take my temperature or buy ovulation kits. But I have to wait an awfully long time to try again after each failed attempt. It feels so unfair. Why do most women get to try every 28 days or so when I have to wait almost twice as long? Do you think I should talk to my doctor about this? I've always had very long cycles, but they've always been quite regular despite their unusual length.
How about you, mamas? How long did it take you to conceive again? How did you handle each "failed" attempt at TTC? What encouragement do you have? Should I talk to my doctor about the length of my cycles or should I wait the full 12 months they typically recommend?