Monday, 21 June 2010
When I learned that I was pregnant at the age of 17 my mom told me that my life from that day on was going to change completely. Any decision that I made would be based on the needs and concerns of my baby. Any guy that I wanted to be with would have to be chosen not just based on our compatability but whether or not he would make a good role-model/ father figure for my son. I took her words to heart.
Now this isn't one of those "woe-is-me" posts about how hard it is to be a young mom. Motherhood at any age is hard!!
I'm 21-years-old, married, and now have two beautiful boys, Aidan and Isaak. I am a stay-at-home mom and my husband works for the local police department. Neither of us party, we hardly drink, and the only time we ask for a sitter is when we really truly need some "us" time (which is about once a month) or have to go out of town. Sometimes, yes, it's hard to watch friends our age be able to do things that we can't but all we have to do is take a look at our little boys and remind ourselves where our responsibilities are and who truly deserves our time and attention.
What's harder than not having a "normal" social life is watcing people our ages with children still drink and party as if they have no children. Not hard in the sense that it's what we want for ourselves but hard in the sense that we can just imagine how their children are going to grow up with parents whose social life is more important than them. It's not uncommon for us to come across young parents, especially moms, who have no problem leaving their child with the grandparents or a sitter on a regular basis to party and have a good time.
I understand as well as anyone that parents of all ages do need time to be with people their own ages, to go out once in a while and have a nice, relaxing time, but when does it become excessive? Where is the line between social life and parenting drawn?