Thursday, 27 May 2010
So for reasons that escape me, I happened to read the post Your Parents Will Love You a Little Less. In the interest of full disclosure, I only read as far as the one about children with disabilities.
The writer states a few things that frankly I have to strongly disagree on. First, just because my daughter has Down syndrome does not mean she will automatically be "socially excluded". Welcome to the 21st century where not only are children like Emily being mainstreamed, they are sometimes doing better than "typical" kids.
My oldest daughter works as a peer tutor in her high school. She works with kids with all kinds of different disabilities. Far from being socially excluded, these kids are included in all things. I have witnessed all different types (jock, cheerleader, student council kid, etc) talking and having lunch with the "different" kids often. Times have changed and it is time that the adults began to pay attention to what our children are teaching us.
She also mentioned that parents of a disabled child distant themselves from the child and don't really view them as their child. I don't know who she has had the displeasure of meeting, but in my world (which is full of parents with children just like Em) that could not be any farther from the truth.
Anyone whom has read my blog even once knows how very much Emily is loved. I highly doubt that I am the exception. I do understand that some people will decide to terminate when facing the diagnosis of Down syndrome, but that doesn't mean those of us that made the choice to continue the pregnancy view our children as less than worth it. The blogger stated she based that theory off of ONE blog she read in which the mother chose to abort when it was discovered her child would be born with a disability. Sadly that does happen and far too often in my opinion, but what does her decision have to do with how I feel about MY daughter?
My daughter is the most wonderful gift our family has ever been given. It is not only her father and I that adore her beyond reason, her siblings think she is pretty darn special too. As a matter of fact, anyone that has had the pleasure of meeting my little beauty queen comes away hopelessly in love.
Everyone is of course entitled to their opinions, and in all honesty, the blogger made some valid points on other topics. On this particular topic though, she missed the mark. Disability does not equal isolation nor does it equal parents whom view the child has a burden.
My only burden with Emily is trying to keep her from eating all the chips while I sit here and rant about a very sensitive topic.
Stepping off soapbox now.