Monday, 15 March 2010
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Should I Allow My Teenage Daughter to Get Hair Extensions?
Yesterday my sixteen year old daughter L asked my permission to get hair extensions -as in, sew-in, semi-permanent hair extensions. I'm sort of torn on whether or not I should allow this.
On one hand, my daughter is going through her formative years, and I understand if she wants to experiment with her appearance a little (as long as she's not experimenting with other things). She's old enough to understand the consequences of what she'd be doing, and old enough to make her own decisions.On the other hand, I know a few things about hair extensions.I know that they're extremely expensive, not necessarily something I want to pay for. I know that they can lead to permanent bald spots, infection or irritation of the scalp, and damage to hair follicles, just to name a few. As much as I love L, I'm worried that she's not going to take care of her hair as well as she should.What's your opinion on this? Should teenagers be allowed to get permanent hair extensions?
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Explain the possible consequences to her in detail, give her information on how to care for extensions, and have her pay maybe... half?
Wow. I know if I asked my mum when i was 16 she would say no.
I think you should let her get clip on ones.They are a little more expensive I think but they last longer as you can remove them when you want to sleep, shower & all.
Yes, it's just hair albeit not her own, I went through every hairstyle (mohawk, shaved head, anything else you can possibly think of) and color when I was a teenager and now I'm a little over it, but it was necessary for me to get it out of my system, I don't think its a big deal
they arent expensive. she should get them. clip in is the way to go.
i would say no. i had them. they destroyed my scalp & hair.
I would have her research them for all the info, pros and cons. And let her make her own decision and pay for them. It's her hair. I would kind of nudge towards the clip in ones though.
This really isn't any different then wanting to dye her hair, which has the possibility of forever changing her hair too. You weight the risks and go from there.
If I were to ask my mother there would be no way she'd let me get permanent. I wouldn't even go there. Clip ins definitely would be easier, and cheaper.
I'd say if she really, really wants them then she should pay for them herself. I got a job when I was 16 because I wanted extra stuff my parents wouldn't pay for. Perhaps she should do the same that way, when she wants something expensive that isn't NECESSARY for her life, she can buy it. :)
They can be pretty expensive and it's quite a commitment for a 16 year old.
Ask her what she thinks about human hair clip in extensions. They're a bit pricey, but no where near as pricey as glued in extensions - she can cut, dye, straighten, curl these and at the end of the day, take them out and not have to worry about going bald etc.
I don't see it as too much of a problem. But maybe thats because my dads a hairstylist and I'm safe in his hands.
If it's expensive then make her pay for it. Either she gets a job or earns it by doing extra chores around the house.As for maintenance... you should know your own daughter. If she's the type that takes care of keeps up her appearance then you know she'll take care of her extensions.(Though to be honest I think extensions are a little tacky looking.)
my mom actually suggested for me to get extensions today.
i'm 16, she's 59. ahhhai think you should let her go for it.I would explain to her the damage that it can do to her hair and scalp if she doesn't care for them properly. Other than that I don't see what the big deal is. I'd let my 16 year old daughter do it if I had a 16 year old.
Most everyone said what I'd say:
1. Make sure she knows the dangers
2. Make her pay for it.
3. Let her deal with the consequences.
I have a 16yo daughter who has been cutting and styling her own hair since age 12. She does a good job, even if it has been blue, green, and "Leeloo Red", (from the movie, *The Fifth Element*.) She studied everything involved with what she does, and has healthy hair.
@Alatariel40@xanga - My thoughts exactly.
If she wants them, let her get them. The teen years are the time to experiment with different looks- you dont have that luxury as you get older and more into the job force. I don't think you need to pay for it though. Also suggest the cheap clip in extensions. I wanted pink hair for a while, but I wasn't ready to make the permanent commitment yet, so I got hot pink clip ins and tried it out. It was fun, but I was over it in a week. She might be over long hair in a couple of weeks, too.
Explain to her what you explained to us and then let her know that she will be paying for it on her own. If she still wants them, let her make the choice on her own.
they're pretty expensive. $500-$1000 if they're good.
I would have her try clip-in extensions first.
Take her to a salon to have them cut, and they'll show her how to put them in.
or she could try glue-in extensions.
If she has them sewn in, she's probably not going to like her hair after they come out.
It'll be broken off in a lot of places.
I can remember wanting extensions when I was younger--until I figured out that not only are quality extensions costly, but incredibly damaging to your hair. I made the choice long ago that it wasn't worth it, so make sure she really knows what she's getting herself into if she chooses permanent extensions. Personally, I'd rather just grow my own hair out but obviously that can take awhile, so I bought human hair clip in extensions. They were a fraction of the cost, they're easy to use, and I get compliments all the time--they look incredibly natural and I can style them just as I would with my regular hair. I can choose to wear them or not, depending on my mood, and there's no damage to my hair. My goal is to get my natural hair the length of my extensions so that eventually I won't need them (or I could use them to add volume without necessarily increasing the length). For me, it's been a great solution until my real hair is the length I want.
I wouldn't let my daughter get permanent extensions simply because they're a stupid investment and as somewhat of a beauty "expert" myself, I would hope that I'd have raised her to be better informed about the subject--anyone who cares at all about their hair already knows that clip ins are totally the way to go!
I'm sixteen and my mom buys my extensions for me and I do them.
they only cause infection and stuff if they AREN'T taken care of.
and they only rip out your hair if they are glued in and you DON'T KNOW HOW TO TAKE THEM OUT.
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Let your daughter get them.
but if she takes them out, give it a few weeks time before she gets them again.
hair needs a break.
I think if my daughter was 16 and wanted extensions, I'd allow her to get clip ins, but not sew ins or anything like that. If she wanted to get permanent extensions later on and with her own money, thatd be fine. So long as she didnt get the glue in ones.
Explain to her these consequences and look into the clip in ones. They work just as well as the sew in ones.
Let her get fusions. They won't mess with the hair, and if they're not taken care of, the actual extensions are the only things that fall out.
I had them when I was sixteen. My hair/scalp was fine.
Quality extensions are expensive though. My suggestion would be having her work for the money, just to ensure she really wants them. A few chores here and there is a small price to pay.
Give her all the info and then tell her if she wants them she has to pay them herself. And it can't be with money that is already going toward savings or college or whatever.
Also, be glad it's her hair she wants to experiment with. Hair is almost always renewable. No matter how badly you screw it up, it'll eventually grow back (unless you have some condition or damage the roots). Tattoos/piercings are a bit more of a commitment.
my mom doesn't even let me dye my hair and I'm 19. tell her that natural beauty always work and if she really wants hair extentions, wait for it when she's older and has a job