When you have more than one young child how do you do birthdays? I have seen families who give more presents to the child whose birthday it actually is but the other young children in the family will still receive gifts so that they are not upset or jealous.
Recently, I had a little cousin who had a birthday and I thought about bringing his younger sister a present too in order to avoid any jealousy that might occur. Sharing is something we are all trying to teach my little cousins but I began to think that bringing presents for everyone may not be the best idea. I mean it is one thing to share your toys with your sibling but should you have to share your birthday simply to prevent the other child from whining?
The more that I thought about this situation the more I began to think that by giving the younger child whose birthday it was not a present would inevitably only be confusing for them and lead them to expect gifts when they do not necessarily deserve them. I just came to the conclusion, that children, even if they are really young would benefit more by learning that some days are special for them and some days are special for their siblings or others in general. Again, if I were to give the child whose birthday it was not a gift they may come to expect things that they may not necessarily deserve all throughout life and really that would only be hurting them in the long run.
I think that children definitely need to learn that there is always going to be a time and a place when they get special attention/treatment but that that same concept goes for other people as well. In my opinion children need to learn that not everything is about them and that it is normal and healthy for others to at times be deserving of attention and gifts and that their own time will come for such things.
Sharing is an important lesson for sure but children also need to learn when it is appropriate for others to have special attention and that their time for special attention will come. Yet again I feel that it is important to drive home that receiving special attention is not necessarily something that will/should be done at every waking minute of every day,
How do you handle birthdays or special occasions where one child is in the spotlight? Do you think kids need to learn that not everything is not about them at all times or do you think that everything should be shared?Image Source