I put my little one to bed and I force myself to spend an hour doing something just for me -- reading, surfing the Internet, showering, whatever.  Just one hour just for me, no matter how tired I am.  It works well for me.  I hope you get some you time soon!

i get me time during his nap time. he usually takes a 2-hour nap once a day. if i get lucky, he naps for 3 hours. thats when i take a shower (maybe shave my legs) and relax until he gets up and its time to focus on him again.

They are really needy at that age but if you don't get some time to yourself soon you will end up not being a very good mommy. It seems like you've accidently taught him that he can't live without you, I know it didn't happen on purpose but it seems to have happened and that's not good for either of you. He can't grow into his own person if he is so tightly tied to moms apron string. Eventually it will suffocate both of you. Maybe you could try starting slowly. Put his toys in to boxes or totes of some kind and plan a day for him like they would in a daycare. Toddlers thrive on repetativeness. Have music time, craft time, snack time, outside time, rest time, bath time, several play with mommy times etc. but you act like a teacher instead of a playmate he is only allowed to play with the related toys during the time they are scheduled. I found that putting a timer in charge was very helpful. Get a poster board and put pictures of the different activites and the times they are scheduled for you both. So at the top it might show a photo of him with his music toys and a photo of you in the bath tub (PG of course). It will take a bout a week to get him used to the idea that mommy and he both have to follow the chart and change activities when the timer rings. You may have to use a baby gate to keep him from running to you and you may have to deal with a few tears/temper fits. Just remember that teaching him to be independant is part of the whole mothering process. Your job is to put yourself out of a job. Once you get him used to being on his own sometimes, it will be easy to change the pictures out to other things like trips to the zoo, playdates, grocery shopping etc. Be sure to ignore the temper fits and tears as much as you can and reward his successes whenever he plays on his own well with lots of proud mommy praises. "Oh look you finished your music time and I finished my dishes right in time. We are great aren't we?!" do happy dances with him make up silly songs etc. I hope you find things that work for you both. The old phrase "If mommy aint happy aint nobody happy" is very true in day to day family life.

when you feel discouraged remember it's not forever, he will outgrow this age and not demand to much attention.

My daughter's a lot of the same...she's now 14 months. Grandma has been coming down every other weekend and sitting with her while Tim and I get out for a few hours (or while I get things done around the house). One big trick is not to make a production out of leaving. "Okay, I'm heading out now..." so that the person sitting knows you're going and then out the door!

I wake up at 5 am, which gives me 3 hours or so before my daughter wakes up.  It's nice to eat my breakfast, take a shower, clean up the house and sit down and surf the web or read a book.  I also spend time during her nap doing the things I want too. 

So my only suggestion would be to work around the sleep schedule.  Have some quiet time to yourself around nap or bed time or even before your child wakes up.  :)

My baby is only seven weeks old so his "nap" time is still a hit and miss. But I try to get "me" time whenever that happens. Also, whenever my husband needs to run an errand and the baby is fed, he takes our son with him so I could have alone time at home.