Friday, 29 January 2010
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Sexy Dancing Versus Sex on the Dance Floor at High School Dances
As I was writing my comment to TheTheologiansCafe on Sexual Bending, I told my seventeen year old daughter about the post and my intended response - The schools need to set clear rules and enforce them.
In my opinion there's a difference between sexy dancing and explicitly acting out sex while dancing. Right now explicitly acting out sex while dancing (the girls stick out her ass and the guy(s) humps her from behind) seems to be all the rage. Sexy dancing should be allowed at high school dances. But acting out sex while dancing should stay in night clubs or wherever else off campus.
A time and place for everything!My daughter was aggravated with my opinion and said, "Mom! No one would go to the dances then!"
My response to her - "Fine. If they can't abide by the rules they shouldn't go. Humping and groping at a high school function is inappropriate."
She got huffy as teenfolk will.
Then I used this example - "Seventeen, if the students all took a stance that they wouldn't go to the school dance unless they were allowed to smoke pot, should the school administration then allow pot at the dance?"Seventeen: "But smoking pot is illegal. Sex isn't."
ARRRRGH! Teenagers!
Ha! But it's exactly what I would have said at her age. It's exactly what I tell other parents that get bent out of shape when they learn their kids are becoming sexual - "Remember, sex is not like drugs. You don't want them to use drugs, but you do want them to grow up and have a great sex life."
A great sex life, yes, but NOT at a high school dance!
The center child (or should I say dance-humping supporter) is my Seventeen.
(P.S. - Seventeen told me in her high school dance experience there's only been one person asked to leave. It was a hip thrusting girl donning a scant dress bent all the way over, hand on the floor, ass end in g-string fully exposed. My daughter and her friends were glad the young skank was forced to leave.)
What's your opinion on high school dances? Have you ever witnessed a line being crossed at a dance?
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Let the kids do what they want as long as they aren't breaking any laws.
Honestly, I'd never have sex on the dance floor. I'm seventeen right now and sex is really personal in my eyes. I find it gross and inappropriate.
When girls grind on guys it disgusts me, I hate it a lot. It's inappropriate and annoying. I never attend any of the dances at my high school. All the girls act like that. It ruins the dance.
(Once again) GO CANES!
But besides that, as long as it isn't over the top I don't see a problem. (Im not a parents) Of course as parents we hate seeing our kids in those sort of positions, but they're going to do it anyways. And really its not hurting anyone. Like I said, as long as it isnt over the top (Like some girl on the ground thrusting her hips up onto some guy) then I see no real harm.
In my opinion, it's just dancing. It doesn't really bother me. My high school actually set rules that we have to dance in an upright, parallel position.
Oh boo hoo. It's really no big deal. Teenagers have hormones, and therefore sexual frustrations. Why not let us let them out on the dance floor, instead of in bed with each other? Unless you'd like us to bring home babies and herpes instead of a little sweat. As long as we're not exposing any inappropriate body parts, what is the problem?
Dancing is dancing. Nothing wrong with a little dry hump.
Oh man, my high school was full of this.
I'm nineteen now, but my senior prom was pretty sexual. It was held at the Dallas Aquarium and students were sneaking off down dark, "blocked off" hallways to engage in inappropriate activities. The dancing itself wasn't any better. One girl was asked to leave because her dress would not stay over her chest. She kept flashing everyone like it wasn't a big deal.
They're going to do it anyways, but the problem is sexual activity in public. It doesn't belong at school. Or the aquarium, for that matter.
i agree with you. some things are just obscene.
i don't see anything wrong with back-to-front dancing. that's been around forever. bending over, dry humping, etc. is not appropriate for school functions.
Eh, I was a prude in high school, so I guess I'm a prude as an adult in raising my kids, too (of course, mine are only toddlers, so I can't really relate yet). I think that grinding on the floor is disgusting, if not downright disturbing.
Yeah, I saw tons of this at my high school prom. It was such an ironic scene -- everyone dressed to the nines, but humping like chimps.
It's totally natural for teens to experiment with/express their sexuality, but gyrating your ass against a guy's genitals at a school dance? I'm pretty damn liberal, but I still find it disgusting and degrading.
@lyssagotpaid@xanga - I don't see how that ruins the dance
@Venca@xanga - So it's okay for them to get herpes behind the scenes but no shaking their bum bums at a dance! ha ha.
@ShimmerBodyCream@xanga - Yeah, let them do what they want, rent a room and have an orgy!!!
@ShimmerBodyCream@xanga - Because you seem blind!!!
@MangoWOW@xanga - Hey, go have sex with any guy or girl you want, I find no offense there!!!
@Becker0109@xanga - If you're going to troll you should at least be funny.
While I agree with the overall statement, seventeen is really not that young anymore... especially in the eyes of the law. Even if you strenuously objected and she begrudgingly accepted, how long is that going to last? until higher education?
BRAVO! Let's once again lower our standards and believe our teens are no more than the sum of their basest instincts. What a fantastic bunch we've raised lately too! All of this letting sexual frustration out on the dance floor has really helped lower STD and pregnancy rates, LOL! Keep at it y'all, it's working great so far!
I think things have been taken too far at times, but dancing can be a very sensual thing and I do think that is ok.
Of course, when I was a senior in HS, I was kicked out of a dance along with my boyfriend, his roommate, roommate's girlfriend and girlfriend's dance partner (all of whom had to have special permission to attend) because instead of being at one end of the gym in the sweaty bump and grind pit, we were at the other end doing real swing dancing, complete with spins, kicks and lifts. The reason cited for us being kicked out, we were "drawing too much attention". In other words, the other kids stopped grinding and had formed a circle around us to watch real dancing. *sigh*. That was 11 years ago.
I hope by the time my daughter is old enough for school dances that she knows real moves and realizes they are much more impressive than just trying to simulate sex. Then again, I hope she wouldn't be trying to draw in the kind of guy who is impressed with girls being half naked at a school dance.
Most of my HS dances (NOT THAT LONG AGO) only had SOME of this kind of dancing, not a lot, and there were plenty of kids who chose not to participate, including myself. I'm surprised its that bad already.
@mstangledwebs@xanga - Excellent. I like swing. My brother's wedding in May is to a girl he met swing dancing and the whole reception will be swing themed, complete with their dance troupe giving lessons to the lay folk.
This may be an unpopular oppinion but, there shouldn't even be sexy dancing alowed. Our teens are becoming too hypersexual, and we as a society are really allowing it. There's nothing wrong with how it was done in the good old days. I'm retired now, but I was a child and family counselor. Do you know how many grandparents are raising their teens children? And with all the diseases. I mean really we need to have some morals again in thsi country. I'm no prude, but this country is in trouble, and so are it's teens. Unfrotunately, we are #1 here in Arizona in teen pregnancy. If it was my daughter, like it or not, she would NOT go to a dance where any kind of inappropriate dancing was allowed. You know what, a purity dance is a beautiful thing to see. Thank God they are popping up all over the country. We need to stop this craziness now. I have seen too many kids end up in counseling because they grew up way too fast! *Parents STOP worrying about whether your kids like your decisions, their your children, NOT your friends. It is your obligation to guide them in the right direction, whether they like it or not!
Hannah
I'll admit that I had times where I danced with my back to my partner, and we were close... but none of this bump and grind crap. I did not go to dances for most of my time in school, but began to do so in my Junior year. At that time, we often ended up not even dancing because you were surrounded by people grinding all over each other. Especially at Proms, it killed me to be there dressed as nice as I was, and seeing other people dressed as nice as they were, and yet people were acting like they were in some nightclub. Don't get me wrong, I am under no illusions of how many people were or were not having sex, but that doesn't make it okay to act like that at a school function. My boyfriend at the time and I were sexually active, but you wouldn't find us rubbing all over each other and doing the bump-and-grind on the floor. Most of the time, we were the ones walking away from the floor to just hang out with people because the mix of bad music with horrid dancing was a bit too much for us to be able to enjoy ourselves... and this was just 3 and 4 years ago.