Saturday, 08 December 2012
First, let me start off by saying I’m SOOO EXCITED to be having our first child at the end of May. I feel blessed to have gotten pregnant so quickly despite a PCOS diagnosis. We wanted to get pregnant, I’m glad I am pregnant, and I would do it again a million times over…
1) You will be asked (unless maybe if you are a SAHM) MULTIPLE times each day, “How are you feeling?” While this is a very innocent question, the problem is, there isn’t a right answer. Let’s review:
a) The standard approach “Fine”: followed by, “Really, no morning sickness?” “I was always throwing up every day, you have it SOOO easy” or “Have you gained any weight yet?” Regardless, you can’t get away with “Fine” “Good” or “Okay” anymore. It is absolutely necessary, apparently, that all pregnant women share the details.
b) The relatively honest yet pleasant approach: “I’ve been pretty tired and a little nauseous”: this is followed by, “That’s nothing!! I knew someone who….” Sometimes you might get a little more tactful approach to the answer, but in general, people seem it’s necessary to give you a play by play of the “worst case scenario.” Seriously, I don’t WANT to know that your friend threw up on the way to lunch everyday… I’m about to eat my own lunch and it’s not the easiest thing to do anymore.
2) People will ask you many times when you are due. The same person will ask 3-4 times. It is inevitable. Unless it’s pasted on your forehead, repetition is apparently key.
3) It is entirely possible to get up at 10:00 AM (on a weekend) and be absolutely too tired to stay up past 7:00 PM even after a nap or two during the day in the first trimester. I don’t know how people with multiple kids function. I was lifeless for a period of 2-3 weeks. I’m SO thankful that’s over!
4) EVERYTHING about your body changes during pregnancy. Seriously. I think my feet even grew a size. Nothing-Fits-The-Same. Furthermore, you’ll be astonished at the RATE things grow. It definitely wasn’t gradual for me. I grew a cup size in 2 weeks. Then, after picking out a pair of maternity pants that I thought were “way to big” and would fit better near my third trimester through the end…… well, let’s just say after re-trying them on 3 weeks later…. they’re almost too small. I could fit in my regular pants just fine until 18 weeks… then **poof** as if by magic… nothing fit.
5) You should by maternity clothes in stages. This goes along with #4. What fits today… or even looks big at the maternity store probably won’t fit in 2 months. Furthermore, if you buy “cheaper clothes” they tend to shrink… the length of your shirts is definitely important when you’ve grown in “cup size” and your baby bump is now a small mountain. It is perfectly fine to buy something that you know won’t fit later on… if it’s cheap, it fits, and it’s comfortable… great! Just be aware that your maternity shopping is probably not done until month 8 or 9.
6) Unless you’re spotting blood (and a significant amount of it) practically all other medical concerns will be chalked up to “That’s normal during pregnancy.” Headache for 3 weeks straight – normal (get your blood pressure checked though). Backache – normal. Severe leg spasms making you feel like your leg is surely going to explode at any moment – normal. You will not think it’s normal at the time… trust me. You should check to make sure your symptoms are “actually normal” but it’s amazing how the body changes and compensates for a little one inside you.
7) No one who hasn’t been pregnant (namely ALL guys) understands what it means to be “12 weeks pregnant” or “40 weeks pregnant.” In other words, you have to give them the “number of months since conception” not the “number of weeks since the first day of your last menstrual cycle.” It is not possible for guys to understand the logic with this one… just keep it simple.
8) The “ultimate sampler” at any Mexican place, BBQ place, etc…. that seemed impossible to eat before pregnancy, is now conquerable. You might even want dessert. It’s ok. On the same note though, I was not hungry at all during the first trimester… I felt nauseous if I ate much at all in one sitting… that definitely changes further along.
9) People (even ones who were recently pregnant) seem to have absolutely no knowledge of general milestones during pregnancy. While you’ve read “all the books,” the rest of society will seem rather oblivious. You will be asked, “Do you know if it’s a boy or a girl?” many times… even in the second and third months of pregnancy. The baby might be the size of a grape… but everyone still wants to know. Furthermore, there isn’t a right or wrong answer to the question, “Are you going to find out the gender?” If you say yes…. it’s followed by, “Don’t you want to be surprised?” If you say no, it’s followed by a well thought out speech on the benefits of knowing the gender.
10) It’s okay to feel mad/sad/happy/frustrated all in a matter of 10 minutes. It will happen to you. You won’t know why. It will pass. Hopefully you have a supportive partner or patient friends.
I’m sure the list could go on forever… what would be on your list?