Tuesday, 12 January 2010
One of the last bits said to me by an ex were "Honestly I didn't think you could handle raising Chinese children".
Our's was an interracial relationship with some cultural and religious differences thrown in for good measure. A year ago it semi-ended (or fully ended depending on which of us you'd ask) hinging on a conversation of what religion/culture our kids would be raised in.
I ranted and raved that I wanted this guy to help me raise the possible future kidlets with my religion, and I would help him raise the kidlets with his culture. I got so twisted up in the details and possible barriers that I scared this guy off instantly. I think the only message he heard out of a 2-3 hours conversation may very well have been "I don't think you can handle raising my kids with my religion".
Unfortunately, I shall never know what he thought of this since we no longer speak. But his last comment to me does not cease to sting, even though it doesn't actually ring true to my mind.
So actual moms please give feedback....not necessarily the same but how did you know you could handle raising kids in the first place? And how did you know you could handle inter-whatever two partners are issues?
What about adopting moms, your kids might be a different race or from a different culture, how did you deal with being ready/able to handle those differences? Or is the ex correct -would-be parents of a different race/religion/culture need to back off?