Tuesday, 15 December 2009
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I Only Wanted Boy Children!
From the time we were preteens, my best friend, Danielle, and I always said, “When we grow up and have children, we don’t want any girls!”
We would spend hours together, planning out our futures; we would graduate from college, get married, have kids (boys), dress our boys in cute little boy outfits, push our little boys around the park in matching blue strollers and so on. We were definitely getting ahead of ourselves on those trips to the mall, but we had our reasons for only wanting boy babies, and though I have changed my mind since, I still think some of those reasons were pretty darn good!
Girl babies are just as adorable as boy babies. Danielle and I knew that. However, something happened when girls reached somewhere around the age of 5. That is when girls became bratty, developed attitudes, (that would only get worse in later years as puberty set in), and besides, parents always seemed to worry about girls more. The extra worrying just seemed like extra work to us and who wanted that?
Danielle and I felt pretty justified in our reasons for not wanting girls, I mean we ourselves were girls and that made us experts on the subject. On some level, even then, we knew that what we were really afraid of, if we were to have girls, was that we would have to raise people like us! We were not particularly bad kids but we knew what kind of torture we had and were still putting our parents through. Oh, the cold shoulders and sharp words we gave to our parents over the years. The missed curfews, when we stayed out late on dates, while our parents stayed home, up all night, worrying about what kind of guy we were with…Ah, those were the days but I digress.
Nowadays, as Danielle and I plan our futures, babies not oh so far away, I know that we would both be happy to have boys or girls. I think we grew up a bit and realized that boys and girls can BOTH be difficult at times, and that it doesn’t matter what sex our children are, we will love them all the same.
Do you prefer one sex to the other? If so what are some your reasons?
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I have no preference, but now that I've read this blog, I think I would rather have a boy! lol
Oh, to be able to the introduce those two little girls to the boys that live in our household! You wouldn't want children, period. LOL
i've only ever wanted girls. Boys grow into men and men are horrible creatures (that was my logic) now i want girls, just because.
haha this was a very nice and intresting post.
idk all i know is i wanted a baby when i was in my preteens because they were so cute and tiny and i just wanted one regardless what i wanted, but as i got a little older i wanted a boy first and then a girl because i wanted her brother to protect her at all times while they was in school and stuff. young minds think crazy huh? lol
but as i got older and had my first child (GIRL) I was a little disappointed because i still wanted my boy to be the oldest. i just had it all figured out thats all lol but of course i got out of the mind set and realize as long as my baby is healthy then that is all that matters, a few years went by and i had another baby (GIRL) and this time i was just sure i would have a baby boy because yess i asked GOD many times to give me a beautiful baby boy, but obviously GOD had other plans for me lol. a couple of years went by and last but not least i had my baby (GIRL) so u see the cycle so yeah we decided that there is noway in hell that we could have a boy so the hubz and i are done and it would be great to have another baby and try just that last time to have that wonderful boy but we are to afraid to risk it and end up with another baby girl. But i am not disappointed anymore and we are proud parents to three beautiful girls that we love dearly and we wouldnt have it any other way. GOD obviously thought it wasnt meant for us to have a boy and my husband and i have accepted that =)
My fear about one day having a boy is that he'd turn out like Calvin from Calvin and Hobbes, and I'd have no idea what to do with him.
Eh, I prefer boys, too. My girl is so much of a tomboy that while she does have the girly emotions (ok, she's almost 4, so hasn't hit the whiny bratty stuff, but she's also autistic, so that causes more tantrums than most 4 year olds have), she is kind of laid back for the most part. Boys and girls are clearly different, and I have one of each, but really, no matter what, your children have their own specific personalities. You could have a very high strung boy (like I have) or a really laid back girl (like I also have). You just never know. I guess if I had to choose, I would have loved to have two laid back kids, girl or boy. :)
I've always wanted a boy first. I never had a big brother and i wanted my daughters to have one.
Haha I only want girls (which I plan on adopting because I just do not want to give birth haha), and maybe a boy or two. But my logic was because I didn't want to get peed on hahahaha. Now I know that I can handle not getting peed on, because as of yet my nephew has not peed on me, and at this point he most likely will not be doing that lol.
You know what sucks? It's when a mom wants a boy so bad that she named her unborn child "Jonathan", but out comes a girl, and then doesn't love her daughter as much as she loves her next child, which is a boy.
That's the story of my life.
One of my best friends was exactly the same way! But the way I look at it, as a parent, you have the ability (well, the responsibility) to shape them into better people. Who's to say that all girls have bad attitudes and treat their parents badly? Also, parents only choose to worry more over their daughters because of gender stereotyping-- girls aren't any less capable than boys. I want to have at least one of each, but I'll be happy with whatever (or I guess I should say WHOEVER) I get.
I don't care what I have as long as it is healthy. However I would prefer a boy first then a girl because the boy could look out for his little sister and scare off her potential husbands. Now if I got pregnant with fraternal twins (boy and girl) that would be great. I really want boy & girl twins my first pregnancy but that is up to God. Then I'd get one of each and knock 2 kids off my list (plan on having 8 in total, 4 boys and 4 girls).
I was very happy when my firstborn was a girl but the older she gets the more I think I prefer boys! Girls can be SO DRAMATIC! I have a two year old mamas boy and he has seemed much easier so far than his sister. I would have been happy with a girl but I was relieved to find out I was expecting a boy this go around, too.
I'm thinking no children. =)
woooooooooooooooooo voooote ! :D
When I was younger I always said I wanted girls, hey I'm a girl so I'd know how to deal with girls, then I met my husband and imagined myself with only boys, he was in an all boys school, the boy scouts, he always had a blast with my cousin's sons and all that. Our first is a boy and I'm hoping for a girl the second time around but if I do get another boy it would be just as great, cause in the long term I think boys are easier.
it don't really matter as long as they love me when they grow up.
@FreeeVerse@xanga - So sorry for that, that is truly awful.
And that is EXACTLY the reason it annoys me to no end when I hear an idiot saying "I only want boys/girls" or being obsessed with the sex of the baby while pregnant. Why can't you just be happy with a healthy baby no matter what sex it is? It's something I don't understand at all and NEVER will. Parents are lucky to be parents at all to a healthy baby, in the end should it matter if it's a boy or girl? and if it is, then either adopt, pay to make sure you get exactly what you want (I'm sure they will soon have the technology if they don't already) or simply spare your kids your idiocy and selfishness and just not have any!
@prettyboy78@xanga - Thank you for your sweet comment. And I agree with what you said in the following paragraph. You are SPOT ON.
I think you get what you're meant to have. We have two boys. As much as my husband (and my mother and my SIL) would like us to have a girl next time, I'd be just as happy with another boy.
I want a mix of children, but I do think I would fair better with boy children. I have two younger brothers who I basically raised like my own children so I just understand boys better. Even with my father's children, who are two girls and a boy, I connect with the boy better. I would love to have daughters but I want to have a son first just because it's what I know.
I want to have a boy first only because I want my baby girl to have an older brother to protect her. (: haha
@Saelee2009@xanga - You should have kids because you want to love them, not because you want them to love you!!
When I was in high school I wanted girls so that I could dress them up in cute clothes, fix their hair, etc... And I had 4 nieces, so I was used to being around little girls. I couldn't imagine what to do with a boy until my little nephew was born. He is the sweetest kid ever!! I have so much fun with all my nieces (5 now) and my nephew, so I would be very happy with either. The only preference I have about kids is that I would like to have 2 that are about 2 years apart - I think that spacing is really fun. :)
When I got pregnant, I must admit, I really wanted to have a boy. Not because I didn't like girls but because if I were to have more children, I'd like the idea of a big brother looking over their youngster sister or brother.
Now that I had my daughter, she's changed my life drastically. She's three and talking non-stop but I love her to death and I love how she always wants to be like her mommy. We're trying next fall for another baby and I'll be happy with whatever I'm blessed with.
@iheartemo26@xanga - it's implied that i love them of course... -_-
i work with kids at a day care...and i have seen the bad sides of both girls and boys...but i have seen so much good out of both...the smiles and laughter are the awesome part...