We've all seen the updates on Facebook announcing our friends are pregnant, maybe you've even done that yourself.
The consensus amongst most of my friends and I are that they're usually 3 levels/groups of sharing when it comes to pregnancy or other important info that people in your live should know about.
Level/Group 1: Your husband, baby's daddy or partner that's gonna help with birth, bills and baby diapers. Definitely should share would them first. You could also include your BFF in this level and your folks if you're super tight with them. Some of my friends prefer to wait until after the first trimester to share with immediate family in case of miscarriage.
When you announce the news: as soon as you get a positive on the stick (or after the 2nd or 3rd positive
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Best method of communication: In person, face to face, the good ol' fashioned way, excited phone call if they live far away
Level/Group 2: Close family and friends -the people in your life that you know will be happy for you and support you and your bundle of joy. Most of my friends say this group should also include your employer.
When you announce the news: after the first trimester, usually when you're 12-15 weeks along
Best method of communication: in person if possible, over the phone is usually the most common choice, or over a personal email
Level/Group 3: Extended family you're not tight with, friends you're only occasionally social with, Facebook and Xanga friends, acquaintances you see from time to time, coworkers -basically everyone else that's involved someway in your life.
When you announce the news: after everyone else important knows
Best method of communication: social network site status updates, mass email, and when you bump into them online or in person
How did you announce your pregnancy? Did you do share with people all at once or in chunks of time?
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I never announced this one. I was paranoid about whether it would last, and all the other times I had told everyone right away and ended up having to tell them later that I lost the pregnancy.
I think everybody just kind of guessed this time, because I got huge in a hurry, and threw up a lot.
All at once. When I get pregnant the next time it will be all at once again.
My husband was deployed when we found out....he had only been gone about ten days and when he left, I was thinking I might be pregnant but I wasn't sure. When I took the at home test I didn't believe it....so I didn't tell him. I took another one the next day and e-mailed him a picture of the positive and told him to call me. We waited until we had a positive blood test and then we called our parents and then I called my best friend. Then I put a status update on facebook and here at Xanga. :)
My husband was first, obviously, and then our immediate family and close friends a few days later. Extended family and not-as-close friends we opted to tell via Facebook.
I didn't want to deal with the fake excited smiles and the "oh...already??" comments...we got enough of those from our immediate family. (This will be our third and our babies will all be 15 months apart.)
My sister told us when she was about 4 weeks along. In other words, too soon.
I knew she was pregnant before she told us. The only reason I knew is because she and her husband were going to come over one Sunday afternoon, but I wasn't going to be there. Normally that wouldn't be a problem, but it was this time. They came over the next week and at one point, I looked at my sister and said, "You're pregnant aren't you?" I was right.
When my sister gets pregnant again, I would prefer that she not tell us until she is at least 12-16 weeks along. Makes the wait time a little easier that way.
We waited until we had a confirmation (two at home tests wasn't enough...LOL...I was on the pill) from my doctor and then we told Tim's mom, shortly followed by my mom and the rest of the world followed closely behind...I was bolting to the bathroom at work to toss my cookies, so it wasn't like we had a whole lot of hope of keeping a lid on it.
@averyswife@xanga - We get those comments ALL the time. Our first & second are two weeks shy of being 12 months apart. Our second & third will be a week or two shy of being two years apart.
My husband was with me when I took the test, so I don't have any story to tell there. The next morning, he called his mom and when she answered said "Hello, grandma". She didn't get it at first, because she already had other grand children. Then, we told my family in person, when we flew across country to see them. The trip had been planned for months, so it also happened to be convenient for telling them that news. We didn't mention it when two of them picked us up at the airport, we waited till we got to the house where there'd be more people. We walked in the door and my husband goes "Oh, we forgot to have them drive us by the store!" My mom goes, "for what?" and he said "Pickles and Ice cream!". They all got it and started laughing and saying congrats and all that. I thought it was a very creative way to tell them.
Anyway, we did all that when I was only 6 weeks along. I didn't mind doing so that early. I don't think I could have kept that a secret for another 6 weeks. Plus, I was throwing up so much, that they would have guessed anyway... (even though, technically, I also had the flu and could have conveniently blamed it on that...)
hehehe...I told my boyfriend during a screaming fight that he went and "knocked me up again" and thanks a lot. I was an emotional wreck when I found out cause it was only a month and a half after a miscarriage and all I could think was I didnt want to go through the physical/emotional pain of losing another pregnancy. I told my mom and sisters about a week later and then we sat on the info for almost 2 months after that. We were both really really nervous.
I think I finally put a notice on my myspace around 4 months. Same with my xanga.
@Brilliant_Innocence@xanga - that is the cutest way Ive ever heard of someone telling their family.
Obviously I told my husband right away and we told our parents right away. After doctor confirmation I told a couple of good friends. I waited until the second trimester to tell coworkers and my students. My students learned I was pregnant through a game of hangman! By that time most of my friends and extended family knew by word of mouth...
Agreed. My husband blurted out to my employer that I was pregnant when I was 5 weeks along, and then I had a miscarriage. Yeah, that's not awkward at ALL.
I think some close friends who live far away I would announce my pregnancy to via facebook, because sometimes I talk to them more on there than via email, text or on the phone. But yeah, that would be if I plan to get pregnant again. :P
Funny timing for this post, we're right in the middle of figuring this out! My other half is 10 weeks along and we have told a number of people, starting around 4-5 weeks ago. Because we were doing fertility treatments, those close friends who knew we were trying were among the first to know. The two of us found out at the same time, so that was easy. We've now told each of our parents and siblings also. Beyond that, I think we will wait until the end of the first trimester, if we can stand it! It's a wonderful thing to share no matter how long it took to get pregnant of course, but since we've been trying for over a year it's even more fun for us!
Heh. Good post idea! I have known people who just will flat out ask someone if they are pregnant. I am always afraid they are just putting on some pounds so never would ask myself, nevermind the fact that it is just rude in my opinion. I think it is always best to wait for people to come to you and see now we know there are levels to who will be informed and when!
My first pregnancy, my bestfriend/next door naighbor found out first because she was with me when i took the HPT then i told my brothers girlfriend and grandmother then my mom which was a crazi hot mess when i told my mom because she was so disappointed in me, i was a teen mom of course and she was so heart broken because i had a baby at a young age.
My second pregnancy was planned and the first person that found out was my mom and bilogical dad and my husband was at work so i rushed off and called him and told him then the worst part came when we had to tell his parents ugh!!!! (this time my mom was jumping up and down when the test came back postitive lol)
Third pregancy, I had got into a car accident and i told the cops that i was fine and ended up driving to work still after filling out the paperwork with the other driver and the cop. I get to work and i passed out at my job in the bathroom (yes so embarrassing) i get to the hospital(my mom came with me, we worked at the same job so she rode in the embulance with me) and they asked me if i was pregnant and i said no and they asked me if i was sure and i said yes im 100% sure im not pregnant, they had me pee in a cup and sure enough it came back positive and i told the doctor that the test wasnt right and i asked for a blood work to be done, sure enough it came back positive. While my mom was jumping up and down.....YES once again and with my mouth wide open because i was in complete shock..and then my mother callled my husband to tell him and his parents found out and yes the word just got out. and nomore kids so nomore announcements will no longer be needed =)
When a friend of mine I was close to in high school got pregnant, I was the first person she told. She had me come to her house when no one else was home and told me, then asked me to be a bridesmaid in her wedding.
The first time I told my husband and then we went around telling everyone. I was 4 weeks.
And the this time I told my husband and most everyone. I think some people still don't know.
Hubby and I found out by using this very cheap at home test, we didn't trust that so went and got blood work done to confirm. My parents were out of the country but returning that night so we waited till we picked them up from the airport to tell them, we called his parents (out of country) and told them, my SIL found out from her parents, and the next morning I called my bro and said "Hey Uncle HM" and he said "yaaay congrats on HM junior" a couple weeks later I told my friends and at work they figured it out because I was absent a lot, too exhausted to come to work, my students even figured it out. Plan to go about the same way with the second pregnancy iA, but no work and students this time, I'm a SAHM. :D
My husband and I found out together (via home pregnancy test). Then we told our parents,siblings, our close friends... and THEN via FB and Xanga. It worked out well for us that it was around Christmas time, so there were family gatherings, etc. For my parents, we wrapped up a picture frame as a Christmas present. When they opened it, they were able to see in the frame, "Grandbaby coming soon!" We got it in on video; they were so surprised/happy.
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