ohh goodness. the roller coaster of emotions you must be experiencing. I would be so scared. I dont think Id come home...to be completely honest. My father would have my head on a platter.

I was horrified to tell my parents, so I just spit it out, "Dad [deep breathe], I'm pregnant." Instead of being disappointed or any of the worst-case-scenarios I was expecting, instead he asked if I had health insurance and was ready. Obviously you know your parents better than any stranger on the internet, but it's amazing people's reactions to pregnancy. And really, even if they are upset when you tell them are they going to stay upset when the baby's born? :)

You'll do just fine! I got pregnant at 19 (I was/am married). They have programs out there if you need to use them...like WIC. You can go there while you're pregnant and they'll provide food for you to nourish your unborn baby with.

I had to go to WIC when my husband had an accident and was out of work for a couple of months. It really helped out. (I have an 18 month old and one on the way). If for one reason or another you end up formula feeding, you get free formula..and then baby cereal and other things later on.

I know zilch about this subject, but I should mention that when tackling a project as ungodly complicated as child rearing, google is your friend.  If you know the basics of how to use a search engine you can find an answer to virtually any question.

Someplace like xanga is especially good for things like moral support.

That said, good luck.

how can you be unexpectedly pregnant?  if you have sex, you can expect to get pregnant at some point. unplanned is a better word. 

with that aside, i am very proud of the step you are taking to keep the baby. i've never been pregnant, but one of my best friends got pregnant when she was 17 and again when she was 19. that dad is a complete loser so shes a single mom of two children. its defiantly not easy for her, but she tells me all the time that she doesnt regret it because she doesnt know what she would do without her two daughters. she just wishes the circumstances were different for her, and for them. i dont know how she told her parents, but while they might be furious at first i'm sure they'll get over it... at least most parents would once they get over the initial shock (although i dont know the situation between your parents)

i'm 19, work at wal-mart, live with my mother, and just had a baby in september. it's not easy, but it's completely worth it. i had my family's support, even though her father, who is also 19, won't claim her.
pregnancy at 19 can be hard-especially when you're single, like i was. a lot of people are still really judgemental about it. but if you keep it, and you feel like that's the right thing, things will work out. you always get rewarded for your struggles.

I got pregnant when I was 18, and even though I was engaged, I was still pretty scared to tell my parents.  They were happy for me.  Hopefully the father will stay with you and support your child, because I couldn't imagine trying to handle it alone.  As far as pregnancy goes..say good-bye to your body.  It will never be the same.  But it's all worth it. 
Since you're not married, you can most likely get on medicare.  This will pay for all doctor visits, the hospital bill, and the child's doctor visits up to one year.  Also, apply for wic.  If you formula feed, you'll get formula for free.  That helps so much, because that stuff's extremely expensive.

good luck! 

This is a toughy...I hope everything works out for you.  Once you get through the part where you have to tell your grandparents I would definitely hit up a local bookstore or library and start doing some research.  I am sure you will be able to find a lot of great information to help you.  Best of luck to you!

If you have to come look for advice on how to raise your child on Xanga then you aren't ready. You really really have to think a lot harder and deeper. Now I'm not trying to butcher you with any babble about abortion or say that you don't deserve your own opinion but really it is not the cowards way out. Babies turn into children and teens, this is not only something you have to give up your whole life for, it's something that you have to be prepared for. Not saying everyone should have abortions if they have an accidental pregnancy, I am just saying this is not some toy or even pet for you to dress up. Not only that it is very very very important to be financially stable. You're 19, not dissing you but again, a baby deserves loving parents, a place to live, food to eat, it doesn't deserve to scrape by just because you didnt want to take the "cowards" way out. "I'm sorry my baby if I can't feed you, but at least it's not the cowards way'

Take it one day at a time and you will find that everything will work out for the best. Use your resources and make sure that you are healthy no matter what.

As for the comment about seeking advice on xanga, I understand that sometimes the best place to look for information and others opinions comes in odd places. I'm glad she has a place to ask questions.

I was 19 when i got pregnant...i waited to tell my parents
and actually i wasn't the first one that told either of them....i found out i was pregnant and at the time i was living with my b/f on our then he got laid off a month after i found out...a few months later we move back on with my mom and he told her while i was at work. she said she already knew and was all excited and said she would help

my dad and i haven't had a close relationship since i was 17 and i kept pushing it off to tell him..i was starting to show and i had went to the park to go walk and one of his friends saw me and asked him...then my sister actually confirmed it and he was like i'm to young to be a g-pa he's 42 but accepted it and bought some really cute clothes...he only said he wouldn't buy the big items

my b/f dad's reaction is you better have a son to carry on the name

and his sister was sooooo excited she bawled

although he passed away it was nice to know everyone was supportive
and that they were and still are there

good luck and hope they support you it may be tough but being a parent at any age can be hard

I was pregnant at 16, so I was just as scared as you are! First parent I told was my mum, because being a mum, she has that little bit of insight into it all. And I let her tell my dad (even though they're separated). I basically just asked mum to step outside with me, and I just said I'm pregnant and she was supportive, completely. During pregnancy, I had morning sickness all the way through until the 30 week mark, which was HORRIBLE seeing as I was still doing school, but you learn how to deal with it and what works best for you.

The worst bit of being pregnant, was everyone telling me I couldn't do it, that I couldn't provide a loving environment for my children ( I had twins, haha), and that I was far too young to be a good parent. But, in the end, it comes down to your own faith in yourself. I really hope your grandparents are able to support you through this, because it's such a beautiful thing.  Don't ever let anyone tell you that you can't do it, because it's not up to them to decide your strengths and abilities. It'll get you down, and it'll hurt, and people who say "Oh, I'm just concerned for your baby", unless they're really close to you, it doesn't matter what they're trying to say. Having a baby isn't giving up your life, it's starting a new and different one.

Try to get everything ready before the baby is born, buy formula, steriliser (unless you prefer boiling bottles), bottles and some clothes, and a cot is definitely useful haha (however, if money is tight, a decent playcot will do for a while) . I don't think messing around with change tables and fancy walkers (which are actually unsafe) is necessary. Baby powder and warm blankets - MUST.

Ultimately, your baby will only have eyes for you, and it'll stress you sometimes when you can't figure out why they're crying and what's bothering them, but if you just stand or walk with them talking or singing gently, they'll settly. One of my girls used to get very stressed easily and so we introduced a dummy, which worked a charm and is very settling. Another thing I do when either is stressed is put them in a warm bath just for a few minutes -- babies love water (or most do) and it's both fun and relaxing. If you're a little worried about hanging over a big bath with them (obviously it isn't full all the way up), a baby bath is easily placed on a table or the floor.

I hope this helps, kind of :) I was back at school 2 weeks after the girls were born (sort of a part-time arrangement where I'd have one day off and half days every other day), and now I've finished college and have all my points for uni so, nothing is impossible :D if you need any help or anything, just ask :)  I think you're doing a great thing, and I really hope it all goes well for you!! <3