Thursday, 19 November 2009

  • Comfort Smells for a Mother


    When my son was a baby, I'd hold him close and just breathe him in.  I could spend hours doing nothing except holding him in my arms, watching his perfect face, eye lids twitching in his dreams, and inhale, smelling the scent that is everything perfect and full of potential ... laundry detergent and Desitin and gentle soap and plasticy diapers... and their skin, so soft and pink with its own smell, like dew on a flower.

    He's 16 now, and quickly gaining on a foot taller than me.  Tonight he decided to bench press me which became a squat which became a piggy back ride through my apartment.  He's 16 and he can carry me, which is hilarious and maybe a little frightening. ;)  But it ended with me laughing hysterically and him insisting he could make it through the doorway without damaging my knees and me insisting otherwise.

    He gave me hugs and left with his dad and I went to work my second job.  On the way out the door I grabbed a jacket sitting on the chair, one that my son had worn earlier today.  It's cold now in Illinois and I walked outside and pulled it tightly around me, and I inhaled.  He doesn't smell like Desitin and diapers anymore, but it still smells like my baby.  And some Axe body spray too I think.  :)

    He may be too big for me to hold in my arms anymore, but he will always be my baby.

    What are some of the things you miss most now that your child is no longer a baby?

Comments (14)

  • KimisBarbie@xanga

    Aw!


    My son isn't 2 yet, but he won't let me hold him anymore.  He wants to do everything by himself.  I miss it when he was a baby, and needed me for everything.

  • michcoy@xanga

    My mom and I just read this one together and are both crying.  My mom said she misses how much I use to need her.  The thing is I may be 24 but I still need her, just in different ways now.

  • where_are_my_fritos@xanga

     I do not have kids, but I understand the emotions.  I know that things I can imagine myself feeling in these situations are nothing compared to the degree in which I will someday actually feel them.  I am in no hurry, but I look forward to being able to say I understand and not sound like a know-it-all because I "haven't experienced it", though.


    This makes me want to "need" my mom.  I'm extremely independently minded, but for her sake and her need for me to need her.  I know she feels the same things you've expressed here, and it kind of hurts a little, to know that she goes through these feelings because she's so emotional as it is and is going through a lot right now. 
    This is a beautiful post.  Thanks for sharing :)
  • KelseyLDoll@xanga

    I'm totally crying right now. My son is growing so quickly. His smells are changing from that little baby smell (you described it so perfectly) to rambunctious pre-toddler. He smells of his shampoo and detergent (desitin too sometimes), but also of baby sweat and the cheese flavored snacks he so loves to eat. He smells of cheerios and those random bits of food he gets in his hair.

    But always, ALWAYS, buried underneath various food odors and perfumes, is that intoxicating odor that is Spencer's and only Spencer's. The smell that has been with him the first few seconds after he was born, and the smell that I'm sure I'll be able to pick up on after he's 16 and has just come in the door from basketball practice (after he's showered, of course).

    Though my son is still a baby, I miss the way he would melt into me like I was all he ever needed to settle down and go to sleep. He still does it on a rare occasion, but there is NOTHING in the world like having your baby fall asleep peacefully on your chest.

  • PhilippiansThree14@xanga

    @KelseyLDoll@xanga - Oh that is the most wonderful thing, when they fall asleep on your chest.  Every stage has its own wonders that we, the moms, get to hold on to for the rest of our lives.  Thank you for your beautiful comment.


    @where_are_my_fritos@xanga - You know what?  Just call her and tell her you are thinking of her and love her.  That will make her day.


    @michcoy@xanga - We never outgrow our moms, do we?


    @KimisBarbie@xanga - When my son hit that age, I waited till he was asleep and then I'd pick him up and hold him.  Lol!

  • BellaNeiSogni@xanga

    I miss the way my son used to "let" me hold him. As a baby, he would sit oh-so-still... staring into my eyes and feeling my face... Now, he's like a Mexican jumping bean and fidgets whenever he's on my lap. I imagine the day is coming soon when I'll have to BEG for a kiss before I drop him off at school. :(


    I also miss that sweet, soft baby-fur on the back of his little neck and shoulders. *dreams*

  • KimisBarbie@xanga

    @PhilippiansThree14@xanga - my son wakes up as soon as I try!  It's impossible.  I can't get him to fall asleep next to me either.  At least he'll give me kisses when I ask...sometimes.

  • VenusSoVain@xanga

    My son is a wild little cowboy at 18 months old.  I miss the warm sleepy smell when he used to get up in the night to nurse.  That delicate combination of milk, Johnsons's lotion, our laudnry detergent, and the sweetness of baby skin.  As he'd lay with me at night, I'd always hold him long after he'd fallen back asleep.  Sometimes I'd just lay back in the chair and sleep too.  I never minded getting up with him because I knew that those days would be gone all too fast.  I cherished those few moments when we could almost melt into one another as one being, the way we were before he was born.  He's now his own little person, with smelly little boy feet and dirty little boy hands, and the mischievous grin of a curious, rowdy, and altogether wonderful kid.  But, oh, I remember how he was my tiny baby and I was the world he knew.  

  • where_are_my_fritos@xanga

    @PhilippiansThree14@xanga -  Yesterday was her birthday.  I called her directly at work instead of simply texting her, and we got to go out today.  I could see the thrill in her eyes  :)

  • PhilippiansThree14@xanga

    @BellaNeiSogni@xanga - Oh so sweet.  :)  Mine still tells me "love you" every day when he's getting out of the car for school, and he makes sure I get a hug goodnight every night, even if he's staying at his dad's house that night.


    @KimisBarbie@xanga - Have you read the book "Love you Forever"?  I'm totally that stalker mom.  Haha!


    @VenusSoVain@xanga - This is so beautiful.  :)


    @where_are_my_fritos@xanga - I'm so glad!!

  • KimisBarbie@xanga

    @PhilippiansThree14@xanga - yes! That's my favorite book.  It's so cute though, but maybe a little creepy.  Just don't climb in your son's window when the lights are out! haha

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  • MJof2G@xanga

    I missed the long nights of nursing my baby girl. i miss how small her head was compaired to me. now her head doubles me LOl.

  • leannenannette@xanga

    This was so sweet to read.

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