Monday, 09 November 2009

  • Diaries of a Sleep Deprived Mom!

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    There was an era ages ago when I could go to sleep and stay asleep through the night.. undisturbed, unruffled, unpushed and my comforter stayed on me till I chose to toss it in the morning.. that day is long gone! My sleepless nights began when I decided to have a kid.. I struggled with insomnia through my pregnancy while I pushed the hubs to the limits as well...when I turned the air conditioning to dangerously low temperatures and he wore layered clothes and stayed wrapped in blankets (brings back images of Father of the Bride -2)! Still I found it too warm to sleep.. and kept loitering about the house mumbling to myself and the little thing playing football in my tummy! "How many times do I have to tell you.. that is not a football field... now do you mind coming out just yet?" No wonder men hold babies like they would a football, oh well I did too for a while!

    But I soon found out that the bundle of joy meant more sleepless nights...only now I wanted to sleep! So I tried to tackle hunger and the loud wails in my sleep .. as a result many a days the water ended up in the box of formula and the box needed to be thrown out the next morning! Finally the hubs started mixing the formula just so he could save some money! I weaned the imp off that midnight feed as soon I possibly could.. without seeming inhumane and un-motherly. Now, I was so ready to have my sleep back.. only he wanted to wake up every time he wet his diaper.. wailing loudly in disgust and anger! At a little over 1, he decided he no longer liked his crib and our nights were intercepted with wailing and crying trips to our bed and back.. till we finally gave up and exiled the crib for good! But that did not solve our sleep deprivation! For even tiny feet can hurt when they kick you in the rib incessantly.. and the tiny hands can haul off the comforter on a cold night!

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    The toddler bed arrived. There were nights when we would hear loud screams because the blanket had been kicked off and a furious little thing yelled because he was cold! Or one of the dozen stuffed toys in the bed had gone missing.. I would be frantically hunting for a minuscule toy in the dark of the night! 4 years later, you would have thought that I could finally get that sleep at night? Wrong!! The imp was now waking me up because there was no room in his bed...of course there wasn't why would there be? The dozen or more stuffed toys being hauled to bed every night have now taken over!
     
    So the huge bunk bed arrived. A bunk for the toys and another bunk with a full mattress (just to be sure we did not have a space issue for sometime to come) for the little imp. That seemed to work wonders for a while. However the mornings are always a problem.
     
    This morning, mommy was trying to sleep in (after the late night movie, I needed my sleep!). However, the imp already up was found crawling into Mommy's bed... whispering loudly in her ears.. and kicking mom off the bed! While mommy just had to get herself an extra strong cup of coffee and greet the bright day with her sore back, the imp had fallen fast asleep and refused to get up in time for school! Sigh! 
    But this mommy has a plan.. tonight, she is going to slip out to the car and curl up in there! Maybe I will even drive to a remote corner and park.. no point in getting busted by the toddler is there?
     
    So tell me how has your kid been sleeping? And whats your plot against sleep deprivation?

Comments (6)

  • chelseanataliex@xanga
  • Nina1981@xanga

    My 11 month old still isn't sleeping through the night... he loves munchin' all night long.  It's all good though- it doesn't last forever, they grow so quick!  

  • august_has_fallen@xanga

    My daugher gets up in the middle of the night and comes to wake me up, only for me to walk her straight into her room and lay her down to sleep again. You could say I should just stop.. but when weighing my options.. "take 4 yr. old to bed and sleep again" or "watch screaming 4 yr. old have convulsions on the floor and really wake me up, only for me to take her to bed to sleep again" I think my first option sounds better.
    Last night she woke me up at 3:30 in the morning, had her cup of water in her hand that she goes to bed with at night and said "mommy, I need some ice in my cup" and in my sleepy state, I just went and put ice in the cup.. but while putting the ice in the cup I looked at her and I said "wait a second, NOBODY needs ice in their cup at 3:30 in the morning, lets not wake mommy up for something like this again" I sleep well most nights without interruption (finally, this just started during the 4th year) but Im almost 7 months pregnant.. so the uninterrupted nights are numbered.

  • michcoy@xanga

    I love your post and sense of humor!

  • CheekyTales

    @Nina1981@xanga - Yeah they do grow up too fast dont they!!


    @august_has_fallen@xanga - Aah poor you! Great news and Good luck! Like Nina says they do grow up and the crying will eventually stop (I guess!).. we just need to hang in there! And it does get easier as they grow! Even if I spent sat night chasing away bad dreams!


    @michcoy@xanga - @chelseanataliex@xanga - Thanks :)

  • peacheslatour

    You know it was the one thing I was completely terrified about.  I had been in a job that demanded sleep deprivation way back when (before kids) and I knew it made me just crazy to not be able to sleep enough at night. 


    It was probably my biggest parenting fear going into parenting.  Like you, I didnt sleep well during pregnancy (either one).


    So (drumroll please) I was thrilled to learn about co-sleeping from fellow La Leche League members.  Although La Leche League doesnt officially endorse co-sleeping we non-leaders types are free to say what we want. 


    I got plenty of good advice about it way back before my first was even born and so my kids never have slept in a crib and the oldest is 5 we have a family bed. 


    Guess what - I get plenty of good sleep and would do it all the same again. Sounds like you co-slept yourself.  Did the kicking really bother you- I never got kicked too much.  


    BTW there is an old joke that say that people are either co-sleeping or lying about it- ha! 


    Of course I do want to say that co-sleeping is probably easier for breastfeeders (milk always ready, warm and waiting) and it helps to have a supportive partner and you never want to co-sleep if you have been imbibing drugs or alcohol.


    I always use a Cave-Man mentality:  if we were all still Cavepeople would you really put that tiny baby down your Cavehall in it's own Cave away from the strong CaveMama and CaveDaddy?  No, that baby would always be right by you where it would be safe and warm. 


    Plus around the world billions of people (not in the U.S.) are co-sleeping.  Is it really that unusual?  I dont think so.  Let's learn from our brothers and sisters in other countries.  


    As far as sleeping-in goes I dont expect to do that again until the dog dies and the kids are in college.  Perhaps my expectations are less than yours on that level. 


    When I'm really tired I catch a nap with the baby in the afternoon and have guilt that my older kid is watching T.V. (I try not to go over 2 hours of screen time per day but......)

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