Thursday, 29 October 2009
I am a mother of a well-behaved 6 year old boy. I like to think that this is a result of good parenting, but I can't take full credit; children have minds of their own, and I believe they decide whether or not they want to be brats.
My problem is this: my brother's going through a divorce, and I've allowed him to move in with my family. Every couple of weeks, his two boys (ages 1 and 3) come to stay with us. The one-year old is... well, he's one year old. I can deal with minor tantrums and such that come along with that. But the three year old is an absolute MONSTER!! Monster-kid screams at adults, refuses to sleep (and runs around the house screaming in the middle of the night), he's a bully to his little brother, has a tantrum EVERY night at dinner, and will not share toys with ANYONE. Because my nephews only stay for 2 weeks at a time, the toys & books they play with -- as well as many of the clothes we keep for them -- are hand-me-downs that my son was kind enough to donate. Monster-nephew won't even share with my son, after everything he's parted with!!
My brother constantly sides with Monster-kid, stating "he's only three" after every horrid thing he does. But my child was three years old once, and he was never as stingy or hateful. In fact, even if Monster-nephew was HALF as good as my child was, I could probably handle it... But he makes me insane!
I don't want to tell my brother that he can't bring his children here, but the Monster-kid is completely evil. My poor child stays with my parents -- who are, thankfully, just around the corner -- when they visit, just so he can get proper rest he needs to perform well in school. It makes me sick. I have never thought anything worse than "what a brat" about a child... But I have actually found myself HOPING Monster-kid will fall down and hurt himself or something to teach him a lesson.
Am I awful for feeling this way? How can I get through to my brother so he will try to do something about my Monster-nephew???