Tuesday, 06 October 2009
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Does Having Brothers Make a Girl a Tomboy?
Do you think girls who grow up with all brothers will make her a tomboy? Do you know any exceptions? What about boys who grow up with all sisters? Will that make him more feminine?
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I grew up with 2 brothers and a male cousin (he lived next door). I only saw my brothers every other weekend, but I was a major tomboy with a girly side growing up. I would wear clothes that look liked boys clothes, but they would be pink. I would play with GI Joes more then Barbie, I wrestled the guys in the front yard, asked for legos for Christmas, and a lot more "tomboyish" things. XD I ended up growing out of a lot of it, but still have tomboyish tendencies, and can understand a male view point better then females most of the time. :)
I don't know how it goes with everyone, but most friends I have are just a mixture of the 2.
Maybe but I think having no strong role models of the similar gender does that.
I think it definitely can. I was the middle child, between two boys, and I was very tomboyish growing up. Can't speak for everyone though.
It depends I guess. I idolized my brother who was 10 years older than me, and I wanted to be just like him. I dressed in nothing but boy clothes and sometimes even thought I was a boy until I was about 13...then puberty hit :) Maybe it depends on how close you are to them.
i grew up with 5 brothers (3 older 2 younger) and only 2 sisters (1 older 1 younger). my sister and were VERY tomboyish. we played with frogs and mud and were just generally not very girly. we stayed that way till about 18-19.
yes I believe so.
My friend when she was about 6 she started being tomboyish copying everything her brothers' did and also her older sister was tomboyish, too. (And still is) She's mostly grown out of it, now like most people do. But I don't think having brothers necessarily makes a girl a tomboy, but in a lot of cases it does - but most people eventually grow out of it.
I don't know that it has that much of an effect. I grew up with both brothers and sisters (two of each) and I'm kind of half and half... can be girly, but mostly a tomboy
I don't think it matters. Why would it?
I had two older sisters and two younger brothers, I was a tomboy. But I have a friend who is definatly more girly then me and she grew up with two brothers and lots of male cousins. I am definatly more of a tomboy then girly, even today.
My brothers spent a lot of time with me, it didn't make them girly. My sister's husband grew up the youngest of 7 and the only boy, he is definatly not girly.
In the end you have to wonder. Does it really matter?
Is something wrong with being a tomboy? It seems like a perfectly healthy way to be to me, especially since "boyish" activities like sports are proven to be good for self esteem.
i don't think so. I had 2 sisters, and a younger brother, and i was a tomboy. My brother had 3 sisters, and isn't feminine at all.
Is it really that big of a deal?
I grew up with an older brother.. but the reason I had so many guy friends (well.. still have mostly guy friends) is because I cannot stand hanging around other girls. The whole gossipy-cliquey-trash-talk-the-other-girls thing really bothers me. I never fit in with any of the girls while I was growing up, right up to college. I much preferred my guy friends because they just accepted me for me and that was is. There was no trying to fit, I just did.
And I would honestly have my daughters have good guy friends then a bunch of cliquey girl friends.
Plus girls are just plain mean to eachother.
My mom grew up with 2 older brothers and a whole bunch of boy cousins around her age, the girl cousins were either much older or much younger than her and she was a total tomboy and till this day she relates better to men than women. I've also seen the opposite, my cousin has 2 boys and a girl, one boy is older the other younger and she is a total girly girl, everything in pink and has to match the hair tie and the shoes and her gameboy and what not.
My son is the oldest of 5 and the only boy and he is all boy, lol!
Growing up, I had 6 brothers and 5 sisters (4 of whom lived with me) and I'm a tomboy in some ways but not completely. I mean, if a girl does grow up around boys, it seems that the majority may rule out and her mom may not show her ways to be a girl. Children are complex and I believe that it's up to the parent to take invested interest when such things as this are the case. The parent (whether it's the father or the mother) has to take the excluded child and find ways to make him feel as though he belongs whether it's bringing more men & boys or women & girls around the child so they can have someone like them around whether it's cousins, friends, school mates, etc.
I mean, when a girl is born in a family of boys she is more likely to become a tomboy because she wants to have a sense of belonging by them because she doesn't see much of what she should where she spends most of her time. So, the same is for a boy or a girl and regardless of what their predicament may be.
i'm a girl and i have a brother. i'm a girls girl and he's a boys boy - i love fashion, dressing up, and generally being girly. he plays football, runs track, plays gory video games...really boyish things, in my opinion.
Horse has 16 nephews and 6 nieces. None of the nices in my husband's family are tomboyish at all. They know they are women/girls and don't try to act like the opposite sex. Maybe that has to do with their moms being around them all the time, or maybe it has to do with being raised Muslims in a Muslim country where the schools are segregated by sex and the sexes don't interact with each other except through strict blood relations I don't know. I have two little sisters and a baby brother and my brother does not act girly. He acts like a boy through and through.
I have two girls. The first was a girly girl. The second is a tomboy. The was no obvious reason for their choices.
I had three brothers and kind of wanted to channel the tomboy vibe. That being said, I didn't have a hard time transitioning into girly activities... It does also make me think less stupidly. (i.e. not buy into all that ridiculous Cosmo nonsense)
When I was a year and a half old, my first brother was born. I got another brother when I was 5, and again when I was 7. I have no sisters. But I have girly tendencies as well as tomboyish tendencies. I was definitely more of a tomboy when I was younger, probably because my closest brother was always my best friend, but I'm more girly now. I'm definetely not a complete girly girl now. I'm just normal. I'm not obsessed with shoes, nor was I ever boy-crazy, though I have had boyfriends. I like legos more than barbies now, but I love love love playing dress-up, even now. We're all different.
I grew up with two brother, both older then me. and i ended up a true tomboi and still to this day its just a natural thing for me and i do still have tomboi tendancys. Like some said above i could relate to males more then i can with females. Dont get me wrong when i go to the clubs with the ladies i tend to go all out in my heels, nice sexii outfit with my nails done and hair done up. but im more comfy in sweat pants and tshirt =) lol
I grew up with a little brother and I was quite a tomboy but I wouldn't say I'm still so much a tomboy and my brother wasnt very feminine
My brothers are 5, 8, and 10 years younger than me, but I showed signs of being tomboyish long before they arrived. I liked playing outside, climbing trees, that kind of thing. Then again I also loved My Little Pony and Barbies. Boys can be very rough and tumble, my brothers were, and I think girls do become a part of that. Survival instinct perhaps. It comes in handy now because I know how to handle a guy. Punched a guy once who tried to mug me. I attribute that to having brothers who liked to mock fight and some real fights mixed in. Now that I am grown, I enjoy fashion and shoes, but I also love video games and sci-fi movies. I like the mixture.
I don't think it makes them more prone to being a tomboy. I was an only child and I was a tomboy. But, I knew boys who grew up with all sisters and they were not at all feminine. And I knew some girls that grew up with all boys and they were the most girly-ish girls you'd ever meet. But, I've definitely also seen girls who grow up with all brothers and they've been tomboys. And guys who grew up with all girls and been at least a little more feminine. I've also seen girls who grew up in homes with only sisters and only one of them ever turned out to be a tomboy. And the same with boys who grew up with only brothers and one ended up more feminine.
Some girls might feel that in order to fit in with their brothers they have to be like one of the boys. And some boys might feel that to fit in with their sisters they need to be like one of the girls. But, I don't think it's necessarily a given that it will happen. I've seen way too much diversity with it that has no rhyme or reason except that perhaps that is just how the person is. Nature vs. Nurture is always a heated debate with most people, though.