Monday, 05 October 2009

  • What Age is Too Old Not to Be Able to Talk?


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    When my godson was 4 years old, he hadn't started talking very much yet. He could say some words, but not very many sentences like most of the other kids around us. Many said that he should be talking more than that and that he may be slow and needed to be tested. He's 6 now and talks fine I think. Do you think there is an age that is too old not to be able to talk in complete sentences?

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  • BEAUTIFULCINNAMONQUEEN@xanga

    My youngest brother didn't talk until he was about 4, I think he could-just didn't. My grandbaby is two and says NOTHING.  She just started speech for this.

  • Morningstarrising@xanga

    I think every child is different, and as long as they are TRYING to say words, there shouldn't be too much of a concern.

  • chelseanataliex@xanga

    @Morningstarrising@xanga - Yeah, that's pretty much what I was going to say.


    Jack was 2 before he started talking, properly and Finlay's almost 3 and still doesn't so much and I'm not sure how old Lewis was when he started talking.

  • unluckyclover84@xanga

    my son is 3 and in speech classes, he drops the middle and ending sounds. so we are trying to get a head so he doesnt get made fun of in school.

  • XxFireXboltxX@xanga

    Some kids just aren't big talkers. My nephew is almost three and can only say a handful of words, but he can understand when people talk to him and he's meeting all the other developmental milestones. He tries to mimic whatever his mom and dad say, which is really cute (and good for him.)

    I think the only time it becomes a concern is when other things come into play --- slow to do other things, doesn't understand, seems "lost" or "out of it", isn't social.....etc, when there are other factors that's when it becomes a concern. But the lack of talking alone doesn't seem to be reason to send up red flags, especially when everything else on track.  Each kid is different.

  • bubbelcat

    I think what "the experts" look for is how does the lack of language affect them?  Are they frustrated a lot?  Have they found other ways to communicate their needs?   While it's not common for a 4 year old to not be talking it doesn't always indicate a problem either.  I do think if they're still not talking by 5 then I would definitely suspect a problem.  

  • filtered_sunlight
    It depends a lot the child. I've seen kids that waited until three or four and then burst out with full sentences and I've met an 18 month old that could string together a perfectly coherent, "I really like your rabbit." (The fact that she said "rabbit" instead of "bunny" still slays me! LOL Her parents worked with her A LOT.) Tim's mom clearly recalls Tim's first words, around a year old being, "Thank you!" Megan knows, "Hi" and "Bye" and chatters away to us all the time in her own language...complete with hand motions. Different kids, different words, different times. I think it'd also be important to look at whether or not speech is the only thing that's not developing.
  • sarahkmm

    my hubby's friend's son wasnt talking at 4 only grunts and such, they took him to so many doctors and speech therapists and they said nothing was wrong with him and he'll speak when he's ready, and that was a year later. 

    My son just turned 2, a few days ago and has just started using words, incomplete ones but its something like nee for bunny, sta for star, angle for triangle, bo for book, bub for bubble. He's been able to fully understand us for more than a year but was never interested in repeating anything. I think if at around 5 he's not using words then I'd get really worried. 
  • Katja88@xanga

    I don't think it's something to worry about, most of the time, but if your pediatrician recommends that your child be evaluated for early intervention, go for it.  It will most likely be no cost to you (depending on the state) and speech therapy will continue only as long as it's needed.  My little cousin didn't hit his talking marks in a timely manner, and speech helped him get right up with his peers--no problems anymore.  Same with any other missed milestones: a little early intervention can go a long way.

  • summer_soda_like@xanga

    It really depends on the parents as well as the children, I think. Some kids with older siblings especially, get spoken for. Even parents speak for their children, or don't even speak to them, just co-exist and feed them at feeding times, let them watch TV and play by themselves. Most of all, I strongly dislike hearing parents baby-talk to their kids ALL THE TIME! I take my Daughter to Chuck E Cheese and hear moms talk in such a disgusting baby voice, it's no wonder your kid won't speak to you, I wouldn't either. "Mommy wants you to drinky your juicy then pee pee on Mr. Potty before Gammy and Gampy go Bye-bye for nye-nights." I mean, to a certain age, it's hard not to baby talk to a little baby. But if you want your child to grow up and speak like an adult, speak to them like an adult. Don't be so condescending. Use real words and your kids will too. In my opinion.

  • Wifeandmotherto3boys@xanga

    My son wa sover three and said very few wrods.  He did not start till he was in preschool and was in speech thepory.  but my son was also born at 28 weeks.  and had two older brothers to talk for him lol..  I don't think there is age they should be talking in sentences.  but if they are in school and not talking then there they may be issuses im not an expert...

  • MelodicPuppy@xanga

    My nephew didn't start talking until he was four,either.  His family didn't do a damn thing about it, which is a shame.  He has other developmental and agression problems that were not addressed until he was placed in a specialized preschool.  My son is 22 months and beginning speech therapy- he is beginning to talk a little, but his pediatrician wants him to take full advantage of our state's free speech therapy program now while he can, which is free up until the age of three.  He is a bit behind for his age.  

  • Morningstarrising@xanga

    @summer_soda_like@xanga - I 100% agree with what you posted.  My MIL tries to talk to my 2 and 3 year old like this, and I'm like, um...shut up.... you sound ridiculous!  And my kids just look at her like she's crazy.

    And you're right - some parents don't talk with their kids much and sometimes older siblings do talk for the kids.  Also, in my kids' case, my daughter has a form of autism (PDD-NOS), so she didn't speak, which also meant that my son (who is younger) had a bit of a speech issue as well, because he just did what she does.  So there was a lot of baby talk in my house for a long time.  Now he's better, and she is too.... she actually learns from him (though she is older).Just an interesting phenomena. :)

  • rainbowbrite721@xanga

    Assessing whether or not a kid has some sort of speech or language disorder should


    be left up to a professional speech language pathologist. There is not set AGE that a kid needs to "talk" by and also, "talking" is a very loose term. Are they spouting out one word utterances or are they able to retell a complex narrative, for example.


    There are also huge variations between and within individuals. If there is a concern, the child's pediatrician and/or teacher should be able to refer you to a therapist.

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  • jules__psycho@xanga

    my brother didnt talk much as a kid and he ended up have a speech impediment and was in speech for 5 years

  • QGUIRW8@xanga

    My little brother does not, at all-- not a single word (well, he says "baba" sometimes, which means 'Dad' in Persian/Farsi, but I doubt he understands he's referring to his dad when he says it- I guess he just likes the sound of it), talk yet, he's just turned 5.
    He has too much white matter, instead of brain cells (meaning he has a smaller brain than most kids his age), and that's believed to be the reason for his (according to a psychiatrist, personally I disagree) very severe case of autism, which is probably influencing his talking abilities (lack thereof, actually).

    EDIT; read the question wrong. I have family members who only started talking when they were 6, now their language skills are absolutely perfect, you notice nothing strange about them. Guess some children just start later than others.

  • MiaJoyTheWriter@xanga

    My middle brother couldn't speak correctly until he was about three and a half. My mom had to teach him the sign language for "thank you," and other words because the only things he said were "no", "mom", and "dad".

    Could this have been middle child syndrome? I don't know how common it is... He's always been a little odd. He's 14 now and still plays in his "imagination world"... Even though he functions perfectly and has friends and does well in school... I don't know, he has his quirks. I've suspected very very mild autism, but my parents say even if it was that, it's way to subtle to be a big deal, so they won't get him diagnosed. They're right.

  • NotUeberMommy

    rainbowbrite721@xanga is absolutely right in saying only experts can decide whether a child is "behind" in their development. There's a big range of what is (medically) considered "normal" but coming from a very vocal family, I would worry if they weren't speaking at age 4. In the Netherlands, where I live, kids go to school starting at age 4, so not being able to speak would be considered a problem.


    My son is 2 1/2 and is starting to speak in (grammatically correct) ful sentences. I can tell from my linguistics classes that he is starting to form past tenses and past participles - he makes the mistakes that are to be expected at this stage in the development, and also mistakes that come from applying the grammatical rules from one language to the other (he is bilingual Dutch/German).


    Mistakes in a child's grammar will fix themselves, by the way - it doesn't help to correct the child, it usually only makes them more insecure which will sometimes lead to them giving up speaking altogether. That is important info that a lot of parents don't know about. The main thing with any child is to praise them and try to communicate verbally as much as possible. Some children are handed everything they want with just one "that! THAAAAT" so they are not forced to use language. As a parent, there is a lot you can do about that. Reading to children, for example, helps them learn more vocab and under language structures better. Always a good thing to read to your kids!

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