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A lot of kids are told or pushed to be perfect in everything they do these days thus; making perfectionists. How many of you had a parent who told you they would reward you for good grades in school? "Oh, Timmy! You got a B+! We're so proud of you!" And the child usually ends up with a dollar or so for good grades on the report cards.
For other kids though, it's not the same story.
Some never hear the words, "We're so proud of you!" In fact the words that are most often heard for these kids are, "Not good enough!" I have been a child that's "Not good enough" in everything I do and I never live it down. I'd be proud of my B grade on a paper, but then you hear "That should have been an A!" Some kids never get to enjoy their childhood years because they're too busy studying and don't have time to be a kid. Parents will just push and push and push.
Helping a child study and make sure their grades are good is fine. But would you push for them to make nothing but A+ and 100% all the time? Do you feel it's fair to the children that they have to work so hard and not get to be proud of their work.
As the child grows older they spend a lot of their time stressed out because it's no longer just school work that has to be perfect. Everything they do has to be perfect, weather it be dressing, hair, work, even the way some walk. They have to be perfect in every sense.
We're you ever pushed as a child to be perfect? Schooling is a wonderful thing and one that must be taken seriously, but, when does "perfect" get too far?