Monday, 14 September 2009
by Mama Pig
I naturally followed RoAngie467's blog on the Momaroo front page. Not exactly a stretch to assume that I would. I thought she made some great arguments and was sorry to see many people dismiss her simply because she disagreed with them. Well, much like watching a train wreck, I have gone back a few times to see any new comments. Someone really get me into therapy because I must stop this self destructive behavior.
I just read one of the last comments and the person actually said; "Why have a mentally challenged child? What will that child contribute to society?" Oh, it is so on.
My child may never contribute anything to society as a whole. She may never cure cancer, she may never give us World peace, she may never even graduate high school, but damnit she contributes to my life every single moment of every single day and that is enough for me.
Since when do we decide someone is worthy of living based solely on their possible contributions to this world? I doubt that any of my children will have a huge impact on this world outside of our small little part of it and I am perfectly okay with that. I am forty years old and other than putting way too many kids on this earth according to some; I have not exactly left my mark.
I know I have beaten this to death lately, but I am just so sick of ignorance. My daughter has a disability. We pay for all of her care out of our own pockets so this whole "she is a drain on society" is just total bullshit. My child is an amazing child. Will she be the President of the United States someday? Probably not. Could she do a better job than some former ones? Absolutely.
So, my vow from this day forward is to ignore all the ignorance and move forward in my life of denial. Perhaps that is enough of a contribution to society to allow me to live on this earth.
Again, I don't say this life is for everyone. I get that some people really can't handle a child with a disability. I respect that and would never judge someone for choosing a different path than my own. I guess you could say that Emily has contributed to society; she has caused me to write some blogs that I most likely would have never written had she not had Down syndrome. I am not sure that is a good thing or bad thing. Sorry.
(deep breaths and stepping off soapbox yet again)