I think people hate them because: 1. They're crazy religious 2. They have a lot of children
I don't hate them. They don't take government assistance, they don't believe in debt, and their kids on TV seem well adjusted, but that's the TV edited version. But as long as they are happy with what they do, more power to them, even though it is probably a bit gross to have 19 children. It's just not that time period anymore where so many kids are needed.
Well, I am not against big families, but I worry about the quality of time the kids get one on one with thier parents, sure - they schedule time, but, there just seems like there would be something missing. But who am I to judge, I dont know them.
i just hate how they biologically had 19 children. NINETEEN!! i'm the oldest of four in my family, but my mom would have never biologically had four children. she adopted the last two from guatemala as infants. they are the same to me as my younger brother, who is 'blood' related to me. i can't understand A) why you would EVER want that many children and B) if you wanted that many, why you wouldn't adopt one of the millions of orphans (i made the millions part up, but really). it's just hard for me to understand. i don't know why you'd want 10 children, nevermind 19!
They should just adopt. I dont care for them either way. I mean, they arent horrible people or anything. But I definitely disagree with having so many children when there are plenty out there who already need homes. A lot of people are going to disagree with me, but I view that as selfish.
I don't know why people hate them so much. I would love to have a large family (however, not 19 children large...maybe 3-4 for me). Maybe their kids are sheltered, but I think that we need to do more sheltering of the younger generation. I applaud them for having that many children and being debt free.
WHAT?! BABY 19?! DIDN'T THEY JUST HAVE BABY NUMBER 18?! THEY SEEM MORE DOWN TO EARTH THAN JON AND KATE PLUS 8... THEY HAVE ONLY 8 KIDS AND THEY DIVORCED... THE DUGGARS HAVE 18 GOING ON 19 AND SEEM TO BE DOING WELL...
@Nina1981@xanga - They also primarily buy used things (clothes, shoes, furniture, cars) from thrift stores and garage sales. A good majority of Americans would never even think to do that and buy everything brand new!
I don't hate the Duggar's. They might have a large family, but they completely support their own. They don't believe in government assistance because they don't need it. I love that! I know too many families that have kids they can't afford and depend on the government's money to support their families. I personally could never have as many kids as they do. I don't even want to have more than 3! But they've chosen this life and they go about it responsibly, and that is something I can respect. I think people hate them because they're conservative and make their decisions based on their personal convictions. These days, being seen as anything to do with being conservative is interpreted as being closed-minded, narrow, and backwards. Sad. The Duggars have it more 'together' as a family and as a married couple than most. Team Duggar!
I don't understand why anyone would hate them. Why are the some people that have commented be judging and saying how they live their life is wrong? Aren't these the same people who would say other people with a "different" life style should not be judged and that what is OK for them may not be OK for someone else but it is not anyone's business? Why then would these same people judge the Duggars?
Yeah, they don't take government assistance... but not everyone is known nationally, has their own tv show, and therefore makes money off of having such a big family in the first place & getting other various trips & whatnot for free because they do hold notoriety... Personally, I think its disgusting. Sure each child is a blessing and all that stuff, but enough is enough when you're gonna be going on 20 children. Like others said, its somewhat selfish. And I feel horrible saying that because I want a larger family (around 5 kids) and I know people view that as selfish as well - but 19 is just ridiculous. They JUST had number 18.
@clandestin_e@xanga - That's not a fair statement. To say that you HATE them for having 19 of their own children. How does them having their own children affect you? It doesn't. I wouldn't want 19 children of my own...but that is my decision. I think saying that you hate someone for making a decision that affects them and them alone is a little strong. I understand that you dislike the fact that they didn't adopt but that is/was their decision.
I personally don't think how many kids someone has is anyone's business. The Duggars take care of all their kids, and they do it without living off the governmemt, so it's in no way affecting other people, so why should they hate them? Yes, they could have adopted kids, but that has nothing to do with why they have so many kids. They never said, "We want to have 19 kids" they just don't believe in birth control and believe that God will give them as many kids as he wants them to have. If they were planning to have another kid, maybe then they would adopt, however, they don't plan their kids. Also, some people don't feel as though they could love an adopted child the same as they could their own, and althouh I agree that there's too many orphaned children that need homes, It's not my place to tell someone they shouldn't have their own children. that would be horribly selfish on my end. And how is having nineteen children gross or disgusting? what about parenting your children is disgusting? Maybe you could elaborate how 19 smart, clean, religious, taken care of, put together, loving children are disgusting? It's alternative, yes. It's different than what we're used to seeing, yes. It's not ideal for everyone, yes. I still don't see what it makes it disgusting though. The only thing I don't understand, is how having a lot of kids seems to automatically give people a tv show.
I think their family size is their own choice and nobody's business as long as they are doing it on their own... I do, however, think being on a TV show is totally against everything they claim to stand for. Since when is it conducive to family values, traditional beliefs, and marital longevity to have your entire family paraded around as public entertainment for no other virtue than the fact that there are a LOT of them?? It seems to me that the Duggars claim to have archaic 19th century values while thoroughly enjoying the 21st century cash that being on TV gives them.
I don't understand why people hate them so much. It's not like they're reproducing like this on public assistance. They were basically independently wealthy even before TLC came knocking. I guess that some people could have problems with the fact that they can't devote their full attention to every child one on one every day. But that is a challenge no matter how many kids you have. I have two, and I sometimes find even THAT a challenge, to spend one on one time with both of them, mainly because of my three year old's developmental issues.
@mikenpeg@xanga - I kind of disagree in a way. It seems as though there aren't many examples in the media of people doing things the way that the Duggars are. I think it's excellent that they want to be that kind of example to other families who are like them.
Well, first of all, they have way too many kids. It's irresponsible. The "buddy system" that they have is ridiculous. How are the parents supposed to spend any one-on-one time with each of them when their older children are essentially taking care of the younger? It's not right.
Thats not to say that I hate them because I don't. I think it's irresponsible of the parent to have so many kids of she herself isn't going to be taking the time to be with the children individually.
I think how many kids they have and whether they're biological or adopted is entirely their own business as long as they can continue to support them all. It's not a lifestyle I would have chosen, but it's none of my business how other people choose to live.
i can't stand people saying it's selfish of them to have that many kids, when they should have adopted. Why? It's not their fault that so many kids don't have parents. They believe they should have as many kids as god is willing to give them, not how many he's allowing them to adopt. and with even 5 of their own, i doubt they would be allowed to adopt.
i think that if they want 30 kids that is fine so long as they care for and love each one of those little babies then wonderful, there are people that have 1 or 2 kids and can't be bothered! I have five and people think we are crazy but why? WE care for our kids, get them everything they need, give them food in their bellies and make sure they are good people, we raise them rather than simply having them! We (my husband and I) go without new things so the kids can have stuff too, isn't that how it should work?
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