Friday, 28 August 2009

• Dear Future Daughter

  
  

  
  I was going through old files on a forgotten flash drive when I found this letter that I wrote in 7th grade addressed to my future daughter...It's unedited
  

  Dear Future Daughter,
  

  Hi!  How are you? I hope you are well and have no big problems in life.  I wish you the best, and I want you to know that everyone has problems that come up here and there.  Some may be larger than others, and others may be teeny weensy problems that you don’t regard.  But everyone has problems.

  I am writing to you as your future mum, and as a friend.  My name is Noreen; I am currently 12 years old.  I attend middle school, and I’m in the 7th grade.  This may be totally weird, but I am your mom writing to you in the standpoint of a 12 year old.
  

  HA! 
  

  Are your totally weirded out yet?
  

  So right now, you’re probably interested in what I do for fun.  I like reading, right now the cool books are Harry Potter and Twilight.  All my friends like Twilight, this girl I know says that Edward is her date to the dance.  I’m like whatever!
  

  I also like to take pictures, I really like photography.  I just got into photography this past summer, when I was all bored so I decided to take pictures of stuff in my room just hanging out.  You know those girls who look okay in photos, but when you meet them in person, there the ugliest people ever? Well that’s me. 
  

  I mean, I don’t think I’m butt ugly.  But right now, the standard of beauty is blond, blue eyes, dead skinny, big lips…yeah.  Oh.  And they’re all either medium sized or short. 

  That’s another thing.  I’m super tall.  Right now I’m 5 foot 6 inches…, which is a giant, compared to other Asian girls, cause all the other girls are like 4 feet tall. In around 4th grade, everyone was soo short compared to me, I hated it so bad.  I would slouch so to take a couple centimeters off my head. 
  

  But right now I really don’t mind, since all my ‘short’ friends are starting to stop growing, and their all short (ha!) and I starting to stop growing, and I consider myself the just right height for a grown up person.  So I’m pretty happy that I turned out tall, where my sister Natalie is a shorty.  BUT whatever height you are, even if you’re a dwarf, I’ll still love you with all my heart because appearances never interfere with the heart.

  On weight issues: to tell you the truth, I’m not going to tell you NOT to worry about your weight.  This is at a health standpoint, not a “Ooh you’re hott” standpoint.  It’s really important for you to always eat healthy.  I have a hard time eating healthy, because to tell you the truth, Chinese food isn’t healthy.  At all.  Dowsing a bunch of bok choy in oil and hoisin sauce wouldn’t be considered a healthy serving of anything.  But also, my parents like to give me food, then tell me to eat all of it.  I really don’t like doing this, but hey, it’s my parents. 
  

  Also, keep this in mind: always remember that what you look like right now isn’t necessarily the same image of what you’re going to look like in 5 or 10 years.  Don’t take anything for granted!

  On sports: actually, I’ve tried a million sports in my short 1.2 decade long life.  I’ve tried swimming: I didn’t like it cause I was dead scared of putting my face in water.  BUT I really regret it now, since swimming looks like the perfect sport for me… but I didn’t like it. 
  

  I also tried Soccer, which I don’t regret, because I didn’t like it.  I hate running, because I hate sweating.  I hate sports in general, unless it’s on TV. I tried gymnastics; that was okay, but I cant do flips on the bars cause my arms are really weak, and plus I’m really ticklish.  I also tried tennis: this was horrible, because I HATE running.  I can’t run unless I’m running for my life or a big hairy spider is chasing me. 
  

  But I highly recommend you to find a sport you love.  Find something that you’re passionate about, and actually attempt to stick with it.  It’ll be good for you in the long run.

  On piercings and tattoos and anything of the sort: PLEASE consult me about these things.  

  ASK ME. 
  

  Piercings on arms, face …feet?? Is extremely debatable.  The same goes for tattoos.  These things are like brands.  And remember: what you really like right now will probably not be what you like when you’re 20 or 30 or 80.  Think of yourself 30 years old in your wedding dress with your ex-boyfriends name (from 11th grade) plastered on your arm.  If you still really want one, PLEASE ask me. 

  On clothes: I don’t wear a lot designer brands right now, but I do have friends who wear ALL Hollister or ALL American Eagle, or ALL Abercrombie and Fitch.  I like to wear things that look good and are comfortable.  Like if I cant sit down or bend my knees in it, I won’t wear it.  I hope that you won’t be someone who sticks to only ONE brand of clothes, but it’s fine if you are.
  

  Please don’t feel pressured by my input.  Being your mom, I am naturally older than you, and I’ve gone through the same things as you have.  Please, whenever you want to, talk with me.  I’m always open to my precious daughter, and please remember that I love you very much. 

  Love and kisses and hugs,

  Noreen
  

  I don't think my opinions have really changed dramatically in the course of 3 years.  I mean, the key fundamental points in this horribly written hilariously creepy letter are basically extremely similar to the views I hold now...
  

  But if you're wondering WHY WOULD A 12 YEAR OLD WANT TO WRITE TO A FUTURE DAUGHTER?!?!?!  
  

  My answer is that it was just another phase of mine.
  

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