"I think I want another baby because I am insecure and a baby makes me feel more secure and like I have a purpose. And hell, I can't seem to find a good job anyways, so why not?!"
I was at truuconfessions.com/mom and I came across this gem. As much as I respect the poster's honesty and completely understand how she feels (I've thought about it, too!
), this way of thinking is dangerous, in my opinion.
This mentality is a big reason why public schools are cramped, and don't even get me started on unavailable vaccines for DD's first year so far. Babies aren't accessories or impulse purchases that you grab on your way to checkout. They're small people who have real needs, cost real money, and eventually grow up to take up space and resources - resources that are already stretched due to overpopulation. It would be way too easy to hurl insults at this woman or say mean things, but it's pointless and unnecessary. Anyone with a working uterus (or an adventurous specialist) can have as many babies as possible - no matter what their motives, and that honestly terrifies me. What's worse? There's nothing I can do about it but sit and wait for another depression, famine, drought, or plague to straighten things out.
It's harsh, but it's life. Life's not easy and I worry about the casual attitude people have when it comes to bringing an innocent person into this mess, sometimes. I'll be the first to admit, as much as I love love love DD, I also feel really guilty when I think of some of the things she's going to have to go through in life. I feel anxious, scared, and sometimes wonder how I could've been so selfish. It's nature, though. The world will keep on turning and growing. It's still a pretty scary place.
Why did you have children? If you don't, why do you want to?