Wednesday, 12 August 2009
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Daddies on the run!!!
Hey girls, I always get a kick out of how daddies start running and hiding once a baby is on his way.
Unfortunately most of us have experienced that kind of behavior but I figured sharing our stories and how we still got them to pay or step up might encourage some that are going through it as we speak.
I will give you the short version of my son´s sperm donor.
Lived with him for about 7 months, got pregnant and once I told him, he cleaned out our apartment in less that 24 h and left back to the US. Turns out, he was already married with two kids back in the States and just forgot to tell me, opps.
I bought a ticket from Germany to the States and had my boy in the US and about 1 year later returned to Germany.
Almost 9 years later by that time (I was married, became an RN, had a 2nd child and got my life back together). I saw the sperm donor on TV. I almost fainted, seeing that man on National American TV, talking about honor and morals. That man has never seen his child, never paid a dime... just left, lied to me the entire time we were together and had enough courage to go on National TV.
Now country girl came to town....., I had him served 1 day before Thanksgiving, ouch! Two days later his wife filed for divorce, they are divorced now, he got kicked out of his own house and even had another child with his wife after he offered me money to abort my son. So, after the DNA results came back, our National TV hero, has to pay for 1 ex wife, 3 kids with her and for my son as well.
There is justice after all, the day of his divorce I opened a bottle of champagne and just thought about how much misery that man had put me and my son through and I was hoping for him just to get a glimpse of what he had done.
Everybody that's out there thinking, I was wrong for being happy about his divorce doesn´t have an idea about what he put me through. The day he moved into his $ 500,000 house with his family, I didn´t even have money to buy my son Tylenol. So yes, I was very very happy about his shattered life which is what he had left me with.
What goes around, comes around girls!
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While I agree with most of your post, because I think it's absolutly sick what men think they can get away with. But I worry about the man's wife and kids, how that tore them apart. I hope you had a quiet moment for the end of the life they knew. I'm sorry for your hard times, but it looks as if you overcame them and came out on top!
I'm glad things turned out for the better for you. (And not for him)
It's just sad how men can't have the same feelings for their children that we have for ours. My daughter's father wasn't the greatest dad either, but nothing like how you had to go through. He only sees her once a week (he lives about than 5 minutes away), doesn't offer to buy her anyting, and wonders why his daughter cries when she sees him.
But in the end karma will come back around, and the guilt will set in. =]
Hopefully...
serves him right ! i'm very thankful that my man stayed around, even though he was only 17 and i was 16. and now were married and expecting our 2nd child! but if he would had left, i was already contemplating ways to get back. so i guess he should be very thankful he stayed ! =)
Sadly, there are "parents" out there that do that and not just daddies. There are some mommies out there that do the same. Have kids, refuse to take care of them. Dont pay a penny to their children. Its a two way street and both men and woman that are donors get it ten fold. Ive been able to see that first hand
Though, it is sad for the children, both yours and his that had to suffer because he was too selfish. Hopefully their mommy is a great mommy and you sound like youve done everything for your son so good for you.
Heres to all the deadbeat parents. Not.
I agree with @mamabee, that it's not just the dads. I've known deadbeat moms more abusive than your worse nightmare. Honestly, I think it's because they tend to lean towards more psychological terror versus physical violence.
But I was a lucky one. I was given up for adoption and never had to see that side of the coin, unlike some of my friends. I only saw a shadow of it, through them.
good on you!
he desurved everything he got!
yea i worked with a lady who gt knocked up by a married man with three children. same situation. my ex, only after we split up and divorced, knocked up a kid half his age, so i basically know how this feel. he never told me of a first child he knew existed but never confirmed was his until one day i was holding our 1 year old daughter and she called us annoucing about that child's existance.
now he's broke all the times paying child support for all of us and i am always happy thinking he's stuck because of all the lies he build up making a life out of. so, yep... cheers, girl. some guys are just an ass but there are plenty assholes. eh
GOOD FOR YOU!!!! :)
Luckily for me, my husband pulled his head out of his ass pretty quickly about me being pregnant. I called him at work to tell him, and he seemed happy, but that night, he brought up the dreaded A word. I told him I couldn't do it, and it took about a month, but he's finally past it all. I knew what was wrong the minute he brought it up - he was scared. I'm 18 (turning 19 next month), and he's 21 (turning 22 next month). We're both young and not entirely grown up ourselves, and he didn't know how he was going to raise a kid. He went through the expected "I don't think I'll be a good father" thing, just a bit to the extreme. Finally, he started to listen to me when I told him he was going to be a great father - I pointed out little things he did with one of our pets or with me that was kind of a fatherly action and would say "See! You have the instincts of a father already, look what you just did!" or something else encouraging. He got the point before I started my second trimester, and now we've got 5 1/2 happy months of looking forward to the baby. :) Looking back on when we first found out, I narrowly escaped the single-mom situation. He was thinking about sending me back home (I'm from the states, living with him in Canada) and all kinds of things. We were lucky - love and a lot of encouragement on my part pulled us through that.
All I can ever remember is wanting a family. To hear about guy's that don't respect what they have pisses me off. Courts should be allowed to tattoo guy's on the forehead DBD deadbeat dad. This would ensure all the women he meets would know what their up against and all their friends, family and the people they work with know what kind of man they are. My hat is off to all the single moms. If I am blessed I hope one day to meet, settle down with and marry one of you and help raise your kids as they were my own. From a guy that run's toward you not away.
He waso on TV talking about morals? Haha. Karma!
i'll never understand how it's so easy for some people to just leave their kids.
I don't even like leaving my son for a few hours.
Some people are so selfish :(
"Unfortunately most of us have experienced that kind of behavior...". Most of us? Really?
I'm glad he got what was coming to him...
And really, it's good that his wife found out. He probably cheated on her with other people too. He doesn't deserve to act like he's the perfect family man.
i know 8 girls that have had kids in the past 6 years and only one of the dads stuck with it. lucky for one girl, one of her guy friends that was in love with her all through high school stepped in to be the father of her daughter b/c he loves her and he loved her daughter too. now they're getting married, which is really awesome. but yeah. why do so many guys run? i know that girls run too, but there are definitely way more guys that do it.
What a coward!
...him not you, lol
My ex is the same way. We were together for just over 2 1/2 years and when we split up, our son was 17 months old. I was also JUST pregnant with our daughter who I am being induced to have on Tuesday. He's had nothing to do with the kids at all...AT ALL! No child support or nothing. I'm struggling, we live with my parents...but I know life will be ok for us. He'll get whats coming to him eventually.
Oh, I hate situations like this where nobody wins. And the children are the ones who have to suffer for what they crazy grown-ups do so many times.
Welp...good on you for keeping your distance instead of trying to create a little family with him that he obviously didn't want. So many Lifetime movies, so little time. It's pathetic and a waste of time. You created a live for yourself and that's great.
I love karma, and he got it real bad. I dont feel bad for what happen to him at all, no child deserve what he has done. then he had the nerve to be on tv talking about morals, really now??? hah
Gotta love karma... while I agree with whoever said something about how it tore hsi former family apart. Agreeed, but to be quite honest, he should've come clean in the begining! I'm sure deep down, she feels grateful that she doesn't have to spend he rest of her life being made a fool or with someone that can betray her trust and lie to her face.