Thursday, 06 August 2009
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Knock out after 13 years - Just now finding out about this child!
My husband had an adulterous affair with a married woman. We just learned on July 25, 2009, of the child's existence because my husband was served with a child support order for a 13 year old.
My husband is petitioning for a paternity test and is contesting the $1305.00 she is requesting in child support.
Does anyone have any ideas on what the next step should be other than getting an attorney?
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A marriage counselor. Whether or not your husband was your husband at the time, having all of this thrown at you is bound to raise questions and test your relationship. The paternity test and attorney are a very good start and I'm sure that the attorney will have more answers.
Call your local district attorney family support division you can get the number from your local welfare office, also the welfare office can give you more advice on what to do, and where to go from there.
Also, it make it easier try to get your child enrolled on your health insurance plan it will make the child support go down since you are paying it.
Therapy if needed, for you, your husband and your child this is a delicate situation...good luck to you and I hope this helps a little!
I don't have any suggestions but I wanted to wish you luck. I hope everything works out.
You need an attorney for many reasons. Depending on your state, the fact that the woman was married could come into play in a rather large way. In CA, the husband is automatically assumed under the law to be the father, for example. Even if it is proven by paternity test that another man is the father, he has absolutely no rights to the child if the mother refuses.
I know that doesn't offer you much help, but it is something that you need to be aware of. I wish you the best of luck. Therapy would also be something I would think about.
oh crap... that is crazy. I don't really have any advice, but I hope everything works out.
Prayer and counseling.
Really, once you get the attorney, you've just gotta wait on the results of the paternity test. The attorney can start checking dates, such as the child's birth date. If your husband can remember the date of the last time they had sex, they'll be able to see if it was close enough to when she would have conceived for it to be his kid.
You've probably got a really good case against her at this point, anyways. If she's not bringing it up until 13 years later, there's some kind of other motive behind it. She would have served him notice a lot sooner, otherwise. As for the amount, she doesn't really get to decide how much she gets. That'll happen in court, and depend on how much your husband makes.
Best of luck to you!
i hate women. seriously. what the hell does she think she's doing after 13 years? sounds like she's broke down busted and looking for some one to bail her out.