Wednesday, 15 July 2009
I was never a bad kid--one of the "better" ones out there, if you get my drift. Did my chores, performed well in school, was well-mannered, and never got myself into a situation that could bite me in the behind, if you get my drift.
So it was a genuinely shocking experience to hang out with a certain 14-year-old girl yesterday. Traumatizing, actually. If this tells you anything, after I dropped her off at her house I felt the need to wash my hands and blast the local Christian radio station at full volume.
The story is this:
I was asked to include this young lady in my wedding because she (apparently?) looks up to me. I didn't mind asking her to be a Junior Bridesmaid because, to be honest, I really needed a way to have my little brother involved in the wedding, not to mention that I genuinely like this young lady. I had no idea what I was getting myself into. All the other times I've been with her she's been sweet and, if not innocent, very "kid"-minded, if you follow.
Not so much yesterday. When I arrived at her house to pick her up so we could go dress shopping, she was wearing very short shorts (booty shorts!), an extremely relaxed fitting top (without an undershirt), and 5 inch heels. Her makeup, although nicely done, was caked on to the point that she looked way older than her 14 years.
I won't relay every single moment of the day to you, but you know Mean Girls? If you do, you'll remember the dumb blonde that was part of the Plastics--and you'll know exactly what I'm talking about. If not, here's a quote from my junior bridesmaid: "OH MY GOD! So you know I'm a cheerleader, right? Well me and the girls all like to line up in a really long line, like across the hallway, so that people have to go around us. I love it because it makes me feel powerful!"
Cue silence and/or crickets.
But that's not that bad compared to the rest of the conversations we had. During one, I learned that she was dating a 17 year old guy "without actually dating," and had lied to him about her age. When I asked what her mom thought about that, she said that her mom gave the kids time by themselves! My junior bridesmaid then asked me if that was statutory rape--so of course I asked her if she was having sex with this boy, and all I got was a nervous giggle and a slight nod of the head. Cue my parental instincts, of course--"You know that your boyfriend can get into a LOT of trouble, right? PLEASE tell me you're being safe. You REALLY shouldn't be doing that." I'm a huge promoter of abstinence, but when they're already having sex you have to make sure that babies aren't popping out more babies.
At another point, she stripped down to her bra while we were driving--sans tinted windows--down the middle of the freeway. "What are you doing?!" I exclaimed, only to have her not reply and change into an even lower cut shirt with 'REBEL' written across the chest. Thanks, Pac Sun, for that one.
I also happen to know that she wears thongs. She has no problems with stripping down in the middle of the store so she can try on dresses. Oh, and did I mention? I got quite a few looks at her beer belly.
No, not bare belly. BEER belly. That's right. She's been drinking for some time (supposedly), and even shared a story with me about how she was at a party the other day and the guys there were putting alcohol in the drinks. My junior bridesmaid, of course, thought it was hilarious.
Her best friends call her 'ho' and 'bitch', and she thinks that those words are terms of endearment. She likes it when guys find her sexy, and loves to dirty dance. The music she listens to describes sexual acts in scarily clear detail, and she knows more about what sexual slang words mean than Urban Dictionary.
During another conversation, she exclaimed to me that she would never go anywhere alone. I asked why, and she said that she was afraid of being raped. A legitimate concern, of course, but then she continued: "I'm scared I'll be raped because of how I dress." DING DING DING DING! If you know the way you dress will attract bad people, why dress that way? I asked her this, and she told me that she would die if she had to cover herself up.
The grossest thing of all is that her mother loves it. Her mommy thinks that she's the cutest thing to walk the face of the planet, and makes a point of letting everybody know that she is a 'cool mom' and that she lets her children do anything and everything they want.
Maybe I'm too much of a prude, but seriously, guys--I'm only 22. I was her age just a short time ago, and it's really sad to see how different she is from not only me, but all of the people I knew when I was in junior high. What do you think? Is this a typical 14-year-old girl nowadays, or is this out of line?