I'm pregnant.
Eight, almost nine weeks to be exact. Somewhere amid all the arguing and lack of communication, my husband and I managed to be content long enough for him to knock me up. Honestly, it couldn't have happened at a better time. For the first time in a long time, with the help of counseling and God, we are happy and communicating like never before. Things aren't perfect, nor will they ever be, that's just impossible for any couple, but we actually talk and enjoy each other's company now.
We were going to wait until after twelve weeks to spread the news, because of the high risk of miscarriage during that time, but we couldn't contain our excitement and told everyone a few days ago. My mom wasn't exactly thrilled. Last night she came over and I could sense the hostility from the moment she walked in.
Her: How many more do you want?
Me: Uhm, I don't know...
Her: Well, I think you're too young to be having this many kids.
Me: That's a matter of opinion and you're forgetting that I may be young and have plenty of time to have children but he is 41 and doesn't have the kind of time I do.
Her: Well, maybe it's time for him to stop having kids.
Me: Mom, that's something only me and him can decide.
Then she went on and on about how she is frustrated and bitter because she never got to do anything with her life and she wants me to have a career and be successful and how she is worried about me going through another c-section, bla bla bla....
Call me harsh, but I didn't buy that. I've been hearing her sob stories since I was a little girl and she has used them to manipulate me into always doing what she wants me to do. She has a way of making me feel like the worst daughter and even the worst human being in the world. She did the best she could raising me and I will always acknowledge that she worked her ass off to provide for her family and help my dad with expenses, but I am just now healing from the words and actions of a neurotic, unstable, overprotective mother and I refuse to live through that all over again. I love her unconditionally and my kids and I need her in our lives and, while I can appreciate her opinion, there are things in my life that only my husband and I can decide. Period.
I'm having a baby and I'm happy about it. My husband is happy. Our kids will have a baby brother or sister and they will be happy. This is MY life, let it be known.
Comments (45)
@amberlynn22@xanga - Well that's a smart plan! =)
@AnGeLmArYy21@xanga - no problem =) I just cleaned out my subscriptions list this morning and I kept you in there! I like reading about other mom's my age who are going through similar things. My mom thinks I am still a kid too.
using a baby to fix a marriage...always the ultimate solution.
@XDaemonessX@xanga - I know, I liie reading other mommy blogs too. It's nice to be able to relate to someone and feel like you're not the only one.
@lesslikemath@xanga - Who said I used a baby to "fix" my marriage?. I said "with the help of counseling and God", and then admitted to not being exactly where I want to be in our relationship yet.
wow congrats!!!
so how many years apart are you and your husband?
also how many kids do you have? this post was very interesting.
haha now i feel dumb... it was all on your profile.
I'm 46,my wife is 33,we are expecting our 3rd child together,and have already got 7 between us...dont bother what others think,including your family members,its your life,do with it as you see fit...congratulations,hope all goes well.
Congradulations ! :)
And can I just say; you arn't too young to have a baby at all! That comment is blown out of proportion from your mother, i've got a friend of 17 who's just had a baby, shes got a career, still has time to start university next year and her mind is totally in control! She hasn't even got the partner with her & is still supported so much by everyone!
Aslong as you're happy with the fact you're pregnant, nothing else matters, i hope the pregnancy goes really well for you aswell :)
@AnGeLmArYy21@xanga - I agree completely, following ones heart is the best that anyone can do.
OMG My mom is the SAME way! When I got pregnant with my daughter 7 years ago, she was such a bummer. When I announced it, it all became "now you won't have a career" and "you just lost all that weight!" It was never excitement.
I'm very happy for you! There will always be someone to bring us down. Just smile, let them be upset, and enjoy your blessing!
Congrats! It doesn't matter what your mother feels as long as you're happy
yeah.. i know how that goes. We are about to have our third baby (in 15 days) and when i first found out i was pregnant, everyone acted all happy. But as soon as I left from telling my parents my dad was like "why are they screwing up their life?" (my mom told me later) Yeah, we're not the riches and my husband is still in college.. BUT we have a complete plan and having this baby is part of it.
Just enjoy it. If they don't want to be happy, that's just too bad. Don't let it bring you done, and maybe she'll come around.
Congratulations!!! ^_^ I'm glad to hear that you're excited about it, and it's good hear that you stood up to your mother, especially if it's about something you feel so strongly about. Good luck! And congratulations again!
I would never want kids that many kids that young, I only want like two haha,
but I'm sixteen, what do I know?
@sheisneonpink@xanga - lol. That's ok. My husband and I are 17 years apart, to answer your question. Thans for the comment. =)
@lezmar63@xanga - Congratulations! I love big families! and age is nothing but a number.
@Luna_LoveJudd@xanga - I wish my family could express their concerns without bringing me down. Thanks for the comment!
@sanfranmami@xanga - Yes, I have learned to just let her be and enjoy my life despite her negative attitude. Thank you for your support!
@MystDaPimP@xanga - I'm very happy!
@Mevliysszak@xanga - Congratulations! I've learned not to pay so much attention on the negativity and just focus and what is important to ME. A setback is a setup for a comeback, that's what I always say. Having a baby doesn't mean you'll never accomplish other things, it just means it's going to take a little longer, and to us mommies, our babies are well worth the wait.
@thetaterisawesome@xanga - It takes a lot for me to stand up to her. I've always, since I was a kid, feared her words and her reactions more than anything. Thanks for the comment!
@soflyyquotes_______303@xanga - Well, I'm glad to see you know what you want. It's always good to have a plan ;)
Congratulations! That is wonderful news! I'm sorry your mom couldn't be happy for you. It is your choice to have kids; you're the mother. She should be happy for you and happy to be getting another grandbaby!
Congrats!
I hope that the baby will bring you and your husband closer together.I also hope that you have a healthy baby and pregnancy.Good Luck!congratulations! =D
@AnGeLmArYy21@xanga - wow, thats amazing... how does something like that happen? jw.