I've expressed my views on raising kids to a few people and I'm starting to get the overwhelming feeling that maybe I am a little crazy... I don't know. I have never had a child, but I've lived with a LOT of people over the years who have had kids throughout my 26 years here on the planet. Enough people to have developed a sense of what things I should do and other things I shouldn't do.
I am not going into this with the idea that raising a child is easy. It's the hardest work anyone can do. It's more than a full time job.
Having a child requires you GIVE UP 20 years of your life. Minimum.
Here are a few key ideas that I have;
1. Getting pregnant can be an accident, raising a child cannot be.
I think you have to go into it with a plan. Even if you have to write the plan down to remember it, you have to have a little structure and know where you are going. Setting rules and goals "on the fly" is going to get confusing and eventually hard to control.
2. Santa or Jesus?
Which God should your child believe in?
3. Home-School or government education?
Government schools scare the hell out of me. They teach values and ideas that are far from what I hold to. Can you accept the fact that the school will be teaching your kids the things you should be teaching them?
4. Raising a child with good credit.
I want to start a savings account for my child the day he/she is born. His/her first car's deposit and payments will be made with that money in his/her name, on time, every month. My kids paychecks will go straight into a bank account and he will receive an allowance from it. I will teach him/her the value of saving, making payments on-time and living responsibly below your means.
Have you ever heard someone say "I wish I had never learned guitar and/or piano?" Make your kids take lessons, not just a couple, from the age of 5 to 18. Trust me, they will thank you later.
I might seem crazy, but these are just a few of my ideas.
Can a single, 26 year old male have any idea what he is talking about when it comes to raising kids???