Wednesday, 15 April 2009
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I'm Too Big Now Daddy!
Sometimes my mind wanders and I daydream about picking up my daughter from school. I happened to have the day off from work and I was excited to be able to do this. I scan the school lot and I see my daughter with her friends and I wave to her. She notices, says goodbye to her friends, and walks toward the car. As she approaches, I can't help but smile at my little angel. I go and give her the biggest daddy hug that I could give her. She pushes me off to my surprise and with an embarrassed look says, "Stop it, daddy! I'm too big for this!" My heart sinks to the ground.
This is my greatest fear. The day when my kids are too big for hugs and the day that I am no longer cool to them. I dread this day but I know it will come. The same thing happened with me and my parents. I would tell them not to hug or kiss me in front of my friends. They would always ask why. To them, they just wanted to show me some affection. I know that it's inevitable that the same thing will happen with me and my daughter.
My wife thinks I'm incredibly strange because we don't even have a daughter yet.
We're going to start trying for a family soon so I have a long time to go but I'm not looking forward to the day my kids are too big. 
Have you had this experience with your kids?
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It could sound odd but I NEVER make hug at my parents since I was ten. I never hug somebody, even my friend until 16years old (my first boyfriend that taught me tenderness). It was a blockade, I can't do this, it was impossible. Nowadays, I can make a cuddle with my boyfriend but that's all. I still don't like cuddling people, even my Mum.
But don't be affraid, most of my friend (I am 21) are still cuddling their parents.
You might not have anything to fear. I've never grown out of that sort of tenderness with my parents, I don't hold hands with them anymore, but hugs and kisses on the cheek have always been appropriate and appreciated. (I'm 19)
Around the time all my friends started acting flakey with their parents I figured out that everyone's parents are weird or embarrassing to some degree, so why hurt mom/dad's feelings if you're friend's parents are behaving the same way, usually my friends thought it was cool how I didn't care about what they thought of how I acted with my parents, especially with my dad, he never experienced the scenario you're so scared of, maybe if you play your cards right, you won't have to either.
ROFL. You know, even when they say that they are too big for hugs, they really don't mean it.
I'm 19 and have never been embarrassed to hug my parents in front of my friends.
Girls will always need their daddy's. (So will boys!)
I am eighteen and I still love big hugs from my Dad. (:
Aww, my heart broke when you described her pushing you away. It's okay. You know it's only a stage =]. I think it'll be an even greater experience when your future daughter is suddenly all grown up and can hug you like you're her favorite person in the world. =]
Oh man, when my son gets too big for hugs and kisses will be the day he is big enough to start doing things on his own and we'll see how much he misses mommy's hugs and kisses. Hehe. I am evil mommy! I am kidding.
Aw I always hugged my parents until I was 14... I hug them more now. I never cared about hugs, they didn't embarrass me. The kisses did but my parents guessed that and didn't try.
If your someday future child is embarrassed just hug her/him when they're not at school. Hugs are a great bonding tool.
"My wife thinks I'm incredibly strange because we don't even have a daughter yet."
^ That made me laugh. My psychology prof put it in a way that was very sweet.. He said that he knew his son was a man when he was able to hug/kiss my prof in front of his friends.
Maybe someday your currently non-existent kid will grow out of it too. :)
I'm almost 20 and I still give my parents hugs like there's no tomorrow.
@xxthatsmexx@xanga - That's the part that I look at. I know there was a time when I didn't really like to be around my friends and parents at the same time, though mine were never embarrassing to me or anything. Now, though, I hug my parents, tell them I love them, and spend whatever time I can with them. I look forward to being able to do the same once we have kids and they're all grown up. I know we'll go through plenty of 'phases' with them, but eventually we'll have raised amazing adults with lives of their own who, hopefully, will feel the same way about us that I do about my parents. :D