You Are NOT the Father

Sunday, 05 April 2009

You Are NOT the Father
by Mama Fox
So, the attention has died down from Alfie, the 13 year old father in England. The story got a bit more extreme when more teenage boys were popping out of the woodwork claiming there was a chance they were the father. DNA testing commenced!

Well it turns out, DNA tests show that Alfie is not the father. Gasp. Shock. Horror! Poor kid, how heartbreaking, but I'm sure after it wears off he'll be breathing a huge sigh of relief.

No word on who is the father yet but I'm sure we haven't heard the end of this teenage drama.
What would you do if your son became a young father?

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Comments (19)

That young?! I'd die! No, not really. I'm preparing myself for the possibility of one of my children coming to me to announce an unplanned pregnancy. Since I got pregnant when I was 17 with my son, I have to show some empathy but at the same time express my concerns with the situation. It would be hard, that's for sure. I'm just hoping I make sure both children are well educated on the subject and the consequences that go along with sex. Ahh! I'm dreading those years...
- 4/5/2009 1:29 PM
- Daisy86162@xanga (message)
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I would support him, of course.
What else do I do, lol?
- 4/5/2009 1:42 PM
- vvaanneessuuhh@xanga (message)
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Kill him.
- 4/5/2009 1:47 PM
- MangoWOW@xanga (message)
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Lock him in a closet until he was 35.
Wait? That's not an acceptable answer??
I would freak out. And then I would support both him and the mom-to-be. Same as if it was my daughter. It's not an ideal situation, but it does happen. I'm hoping to be able to raise my children in a way that minimizes the chance of it happening, but if it does, we'll handle it together.
- 4/5/2009 1:49 PM
- bluewingz (message)
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I'd beat my son's ass. Damn it. I hope my complaining and suffering would teach my kids something; and that would be at least WAIT to have kids until they are much older. I sure as hell do NOT want to be raising grandkids, especially when they are that freaking young. Hell no.
- 4/5/2009 1:49 PM
- ThatLostGirl101@xanga (message)
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Poor guy would have to grow up fast, and I'd be teaching him that you reap what you sow...hopefully before this would happen.
- 4/5/2009 2:05 PM
- Over_my_coffee_cup@xanga (message)
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Holy cow...what is this (little, pre-teen, teenager?) girl doing?!
- 4/5/2009 2:19 PM
- doLc3@xanga (message)
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If I had a son and he knocked up a girl... I think I would be furious, but he's my son, so I would support him and the girl. Even though I wish he would wait for marriage.
- 4/5/2009 3:01 PM
- spanz@xanga (message)
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i'll feel like i failed as a parent.
- 4/5/2009 3:02 PM
- inspireothers@xanga (message)
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@thinkin_up_dreams@xanga - I second this comment.
- 4/5/2009 5:47 PM
- causewehavealovesostrong@xanga (message)
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At that age? I would think I woulda raised my kids better than that.
- 4/5/2009 7:57 PM
- XxWiltedRosexX@xanga (message)
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There is nothing I can do but to support my son, it's the time that he really needs guidance and help him learn from his mistakes. But hopefully, this will not happen to my kid, he's still young and unaware of the world around him. He currently enjoy video games and sometimes, I buy wow gold for him.
- 4/5/2009 8:53 PM
- tricky11@datingish (message)
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13? Wow...
- 4/5/2009 9:00 PM
- goD_I_V_Aunc10@xanga (message)
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I just wonder where exactly this kid's parents were. I mean if this kid was the father, he is only 13. I know when I was 13, my parents especially my Mom knew where I was at ALL times. All my friends, all their friends, all their parents. I lived a very normal life. Why in the world was the 13-year-old even in the situation with a girl where sex could happen?! Yes, a 13-year-old can be rebellious and troubled, but like some of you said... it's all on how you raise them.
- 4/6/2009 12:21 AM
- MindyC2B@xanga (message)
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@thinkin_up_dreams@xanga - && I third that comment.
Seriously, that young.. That's really a shame on the parent's behalf. I would be getting him a Baby Think It Over and enrolling him in all the parenting classes that I could find. He would also be getting a work permit and working to support his actions.
It's absolutely absurd that we have babies having babies!!!
- 4/6/2009 12:55 AM
- jusanobody@xanga (message)
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If my son came to me and told me he was going to be a father, well there isn't really anything to do. The horse is already out of the barn. You can't go back and change anything, so there isn't any point of yelling or making him feel ashamed. If I had become a teenage mom, I know my mom wouldn't have flipped out on me. She would have supported me. If I had become pregnant at a young age, I wouldn't want her to yell because I would already feel badly, I would feel like I had let her down. As a parent, you need to pick your battles as well as teach them sexual education at a younger age. By the time a boy is 13, he is curious about sex. So if you were too insecure to talk about it with him by then, he is going to make mistakes....and one of them is not waiting or not using protection. But, if after all of the education about sex, and my son ended up as a young father, I would support him 110% because it is your job as a parent to be the support. And I would most definitely not yell or make him feel worse.
- 4/6/2009 10:44 AM
- interressantchick@xanga (message)
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I would kick my kids ass! 13 is WAY too young! Period! That isn't even highschool yet!! And in this case, can you imagine being the mom of the girl who at 14 or whatever has MULTIPLE people FAILING DNA tests on her kid?! Wow.
- 4/6/2009 12:39 PM
- Tearfully_Miserable@xanga (message)
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Before or after I was done kicking his ass?
Yes, if I had a son and he became a young dad, I would be upset. I would be furious. I would also make goddamn sure he didn't pull the more-common-than-it-should-be disappearing act. I wouldn't force them to get married, but I would demand that he be present in his child's life, financially and emotionally.
If it was my daughter....well, I wouldn't kick her ass. I would go over her options with her and support her in whatever she decides to do.
- 4/6/2009 4:00 PM
- MistressCraze@xanga (message)
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If i had a daughter, I would ask her if she wanted to keep the baby, and highly recommend to her that the best thing she could do would be to have an abortion, but it would be entirely up to her if she wanted to have the baby; then keep it or give it up for adoption.

If it was my son (not that I have any children), I would treaten to break his neck in half if he dared to abandon the girl and their unborn child. He wouldn´t need to continue being with her or even marry her, he would just need to be involved emotionally and finantially in his child´s life.

"Sighs", that´s one of the MANY reasons I just don´t want kids of my own, wheter they´d be biological or adopted
- 4/6/2009 5:19 PM
- tsukiouji@xanga (message)
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About the Author

From: mamafox
Name: Mama Fox
About Me: Hi y'all, I'm Mama Fox! I'm a young, optimistic homeschooling mama of three boys. This is all about our adventures and at times misadventures of raising little men in today's world and pretty much whatever else is on my mind. :)