Thursday, 26 February 2009

  • My Parents and the Punishments They Gave My Sister and Me


    I'm always thankful that my parents taught us how to behave while growing up, how to respect people for who they are, and also teaching us good manners ("please" and "thank you",  not talking with your mouth full etc...).

    A few years ago on holiday, my sister said to my mum (my dad was taking photos), "I am really grateful that you brought my brother and me up to behave properly. It shocks me how today's kids behave."

    We were not always perfect kids. We did misbehave- pitting our parents against each other. Sometimes we knew we'd done wrong so we always used to run to our room and hold the door tight.

    Here were the usual punishments given to me until I was about 8 (and they worked):

    1. The classic, sent to your room move.  It worked most of the time, for both my sister and me.
    2. Put to bed early, meaning missing out on the fun.
    3. The good smack on the butt or hand a few times.  This was very useful when we misbehaved in public.
    4. No allowance money.
    5. No candy.
    6. If we misbehaved when we were out, we could not have ice-cream.
    Do you use any of these punishments? How were you punished growing up?

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Comments (24)

  • BEAUTIFULCINNAMONQUEEN@xanga

    My father was abusive and beat the crap out of us, filled the tub with water and tried to drown us or sat you on the toilet and made you open your mouth so he could put is shot gun in your mouth
  • LadyLibellule@xanga

    The punishment I hated the most was "time out".  It was worse than being sent to your room.  At least there were toys and books in your room.  For us, "time out" meant sitting on the stairs for 20 minutes.  It seemed like forever!  (I wish Supernanny had been around back then, with her "one minute per child's age" rule.  I wouldn't have had to sit there so long!)
  • Katja88@xanga

    The thing that annoyed me the most was my parents' refusal to put up with "yeah" and "like".  If my sister or I said "yeah", my father would say "yessssssssssssss", which got annoying enough that we would speak properly.  The same goes for using "like" as anything but a synonym for "love".  I think "stupid" was a bad word for a while, and my parents also avoided cursing around us.  As much as some of that got on my nerves, I'm very glad I learned to speak properly.
  • ReflectingSpirit11@xanga

    When I got in trouble I was usually sent to me room or was denied my allowed money. My parents never struck me.

  • PoetMcChick@xanga

    I didn't really get into a whole lot of trouble, but I guess I was not allowed on the computer when I got old enough to care about the computer.
    When I was younger, I was spanked if it was something drastic enough to warrant it or set in time out.

    @BEAUTIFULCINNAMONQUEEN@xanga - That is awful!!!! At what age did he stop that? Or did he only get worse?
  • imsum1special2@xanga

    Time out, not allowed to go outside to play, and spanking (not in public, though).  We weren't given allowance because my parents said we shouldn't get paid for things that we were supposed to do anyway, and we weren't a dessert-after-dinner family, so those weren't options. 

    Like you and your sister, I'm glad that my parents raised my brother and me to behave properly, and I, too, am appalled by children's behavior these days.
  • ELIZerson@xanga

    We got spanked (not in public) or sent to our room.  Depending on the nature of the problem, there was some variance.  One time when my brothers refused to clean their rooms after a long, long issue with it, my parents (after adequate warning) went through and bagged up everything they left on the floor, and gave it away.
  • Trigger821@xanga

    I was beaten with various household items...usually something that is easy to swing with...
  • berisme@xanga

    when I was younger I used to go out and sit on the roof outside my window.  My mom was not always in her right mind.  One time she caught me out on the roof just sitting outside my window in January, the roof was a icy.  She came in my room and caught me out there and locked the window shut.  I was out there until my neighbor saw me and put up a ladder.

    My mom liked to draw attention to us when we misbehaved.  She called the school one time when I was in elementary to see if they could give me a detention for getting in trouble at home.  -The school didn't allow it.

    Finally my mom went to the wrong person.- My youth pastor.  She told my mom it was abuse.  After that, I was not allowed to go to church..talk about logic.
  • BEAUTIFULCINNAMONQUEEN@xanga

    @PoetMcChick@xanga - he  never stopped.  as I became older I began to fight back until he told me I had to leave or one of us was going to kill the other.  I've been on my own since two weeks before I turned 17
  • songbird27@xanga

    My parents liked to be creative with punishments... For instance, once when I was sent to my room (probably for bullying my little brother) I slammed my door shut.  The punishment: they took my bedroom door off the hindges for 2 weeks.  I learned my lesson!
  • OoHiTsKaItLyN@xanga

    I got spanked with a belt or a hand, depending on the crime. For bad grades I got grounded, which was not terrible.


    My sister got away with everything, so I would get punished for her wrong doings and not being the "better example"
  • trinity_heart@xanga

    I was always spanked or grounded.
  • mamajoyjoy

    The good ole featherduster was the way to go. It wasn't used that often, but I seriously didn't even know it was a featherduster until way later in life.
  • inspireothers@xanga

    I think the rolling pin D:

  • musinuite@xanga

    I got spanked until my mom felt that she had to actually feel like she was hurting me for it to do any good. After that, I just got yelled at or had things taken away from me. My mom had this really scary yelling voice, and my dad would get really quiet and just stare at you. Both were effective. :P
  • PoetMcChick@xanga

    @BEAUTIFULCINNAMONQUEEN@xanga - Oh wow I'm sorry to hear about that. Good luck to you!
  • scramBledmegZntoasT@xanga

    I usually get grounded or something taken away. In fact my stepmom just took my iPhone away on Tuesday for texting while she was talking to me (apparently that is rude) but she gave it back yesterday morning. And I have been spanked plenty of times too, but never that bad or with a belt or anything like that. I would actually take getting spanked over being grounded most times but then my dad and stepmom don't really need to know that.
  • fly46@xanga

    @scramBledmegZntoasT@xanga - I must ask.. You don't think that it's rude to carry on a conversation with somebody else while somebody is talking to you?


    I swear, cellphones have enabled people to be at their ultimate in rudeness at any given point in time and it amazes me the infinate number of ways people have to be rude with one.
  • lilbit@xanga

    I spank my son. People look at me like it's child abuse because most are scared of their kids now. Schools tend to bend the truth a bit when it comes to CPS. I stop that crap quick with my son. If I have to spank him there is a long speech before the spanking detailing why his actions now require my actions, the spanking happens and then the speech again.


    It takes awhile but it cuts down on the confusion of why his hind quarters got popped.

  • chefstu@xanga

    I was spanked or given the belt for more serious offenses as was every kid growing up in the 60's. Even the schools were allowed to give the strap and nun's(Catholic School) used a yard stick(Before metric in Canada) on your knuckles or the back of your hand. You were taught to respect other people and property and be a good person. I don't agree with using any type of weapon eg; belt, stick or any other object. But a good spanking with an open hand on the butt could teach a few kids nowadays a little more respect for their parents and others and get rid of that smart or foul mouth.
  • scramBledmegZntoasT@xanga

    @fly46@xanga - 

    Well, I wasn't talking, I was texting. And I know it was rude now. But I was listening to everything she said, I even repeated it back to her to prove it but she was still annoyed.
  • xiaosnowtenshi@xanga

    @fly46@xanga - Whether or not it's rude depends on the person you're with, I think. I.e. I really don't mind when my friends do it as long as they're not doing it the entire time. To me it's the same as if they decided to pour a cup of coffee while talking to me; it's just a different medium.
  • causewehavealovesostrong@xanga

    I definitely got spankings with switches.  My dad used to make me pick them out and if I tried to go easy on myself, he would pick on out that was way worse.  When I got older, it was groundings but the type of groundings where my parents said, "You're off punishment when I feel like you've learned your lesson".

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