Saturday, 07 February 2009

• Mom and Dad, You Were Right.

  My mom and dad are two of the best people I know. They are amazing, and have always been there for me no matter how badly I acted. When I was growing up, I was definitely not the easiest child in the world to handle. I thought I knew everything and was unwilling to accept anything that my parents had to say to me.

  This was mainly apparent during my middle school years, where I went from being the jock soccer player to one of the popular girls. I died my hair black and red, dated the wrong types of guys, and refused to listen to anything my parents had to say. I wasn't a bad kid per say, but my attitude definitely changed significantly during this time. My mom and dad were both shocked and disappointed by these new changes.

  The aspect about this that was most difficult for them was that I cut them off completely from my life.  Anything they said to me made my skin crawl, and I hated the idea of having to spend any significant amount of time with the two of them. All I wanted was to be left alone. But they wouldn't let me write them off. No matter how many fights we had or how much I upset them, they were always there for me.

  Looking back on this time period, I feel terrible for the way that I acted. They didn't deserve to be treated like that at all, and everything they said to me was right. All they wanted was to be a part of my life, but I didn't want them to be. In a way, I am glad that this happened because I now appreciate how important they are in my life. I realize that life without them is a much more depressing one, and I need them just as much or more than they need me.

  I say this now because I know there are a lot of people who deal with the terrible middle school days, and are confused about why their kids won't talk to them. All I can say is that you just have to wait it out, and be available to your kids no matter how much they tell you they don't want you to be. I love my parents more than anything, and would never do anything to intentionally hurt them. I was a confused teenager, and was reacting to the changes in my life in a very immature way. But, I can now happily admit that my parents know much more about life than I do, and have been right about pretty much everything so far. So just hang in there if this is your situation, it will get better!

  Do you have kids that have cut off communication with you or are acting out against what you tell them? Did you ever act this way towards your parents?

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