Friday, 23 January 2009
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How Do You Get Your Daughter to Wear a Bra?
Parents, I have a question for you. Well, actually parents of girls who are now wearing bras are who I have the question for.
How did you get your girls to wear bras? Did you just buy them and say wear this? Did you explain to them why they are supposed to wear it? What did you do?
My daughter is at the age where she is just starting with a little girl bra. She does not like the idea of bras and dislikes wearing them.
How did you get your girls to wear bras? How did you get used to wearing one?
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-shrugs- My mom just gave me one and told me that I was growing and that I needed to wear it. I didn't mind it in the least, so I don't know what to do with a girl who doesn't like it.
great question, and i'd like to know too. my daughter will be that age. i remember my mom just bought me some and that was that. it would've been nice if she talked to me about breasts and bras.
but i was so small up there. i have no idea why i had to wear them.
If she doesn't like it, why does she need it? Am I missing something?
Depending on how she's developing you could have her wear cami shirts/undershirts as the transition to it.
I don't remember the time period of getting a bra. First I didn't wear one then I did. I obviously didn't throw much of a fit if I can't remember it. Haha! My mom never really talked to me about it.
LOL, my little girl came to me. She wanted one, and was ready for it, and wears one everyday. She didn't want to 'stick out' as she puts it, for everyone to see.
How old is she? I think a lot of girls start wearing them in 6th grade, I know I was. I think the key is to make sure it is comfortable and cute, something she will want to wear. Maybe even take her with you to buy them and let her pick.
I wore sports bras a lot when I was young, they were more comfortable and seemed less "uncool". Also, I developed fairly fast and so by my freshman year in HS I was in a 32 D cup and I had a small frame so they were pretty obvious. Anyway, if she is getting to that age, talk to her about it and take her shopping. Also, don't get on her case about it. It might make any resistance worse.
I remember in 6th grade, the health teacher got all of the girls in my grade together and told them that it was about time they started to wear bras. Somehow or another, over fifty girls had decided they wouldn't wear a bra. Some of them had pretty big chests already. I had been wearing a bra for years before that, so I was pretty humored by the fact they were having to be told why they were supposed to wear one.
My mom told me that I needed to begin wearing a bra because I was getting older, I was growing, and I was maturing. I liked being "mature" so I was perfectly happy with the transition because I felt way more responsible. At first I didn't actually like wearing them though, but I got used to it pretty quickly.
@TornadoChaser - I did that too. Mine were basically camis or a sort of sports bra to get me used to it then I got a regular bra. Had I gotten a bra right off the bat, I would have thrown a fit because at that age they look complicated. LOL
{How Do You Get Your Daughter to Wear a Bra?}
Well, by wearing one yourself. lol
My daughter has a double D bra.. she sort of doesnt have a choice in the matter. She has always had big boobs and she actually asked ME to get HER bras.
if she doesn't like bras you could try a cami with "built in support". If she's big enough to truly need one she'll probably like the support.
My mom told me to wear a bra b/c if I didn't "You'll have cow titties like your Aunt Irene and you dont want that" I am not lieing either. I definitely didn't want my boobs to be THAT big and do to my knees. Not that wearing a bra kept me from being a DD but still....it convinced me LOL.
I was very self concious though, so I used to wear to sports bras to feel comfortable and to be less noticable. It might help her if you let her pick them out and if she finds one thats really cute AND comfortable.
goodluck
tell her she'll sag
that one scared the crap out of me....recently read an article about how much your boobs will sag after a mile run - scared me right out to go buy a sports bra
i like the cami with built in support idea. it'll be more like just wearing an undershirt or something.
when i was around that age, i couldn't wait to wear a bra. i was a very late bloomer. all the other girls had boobs and i had nothing. so when i finally developed (almost overnight!) i was delighted and went to my mom saying "let's go bra-shopping!"
My daughter actually asked me for one after a boy at school made her feel self-conscious. We went to the store and she marched to the lingerie section and picked out several that she liked -- we opted for sports bras first more for modesty's sake.
I don't have kids but I remember when I started wearing a bra. I started wearing one just in 6th grade gym class because the shirts were white. But I didn't really need one until the end of 7th and that was when I started wearing one full time. I think at first girls don't like them because they are new and fell weird when your not used to wearing one. My sister refused to even talk about them when my mom would try to get her to wear one. I think it depends on the girl and their age. I know people who had to start wearing one at age 8 and some who are 16 and still don't really need one.Â
@mrssprout@xanga - This is what happened to me as well. For the longest time I just wore a cami so I didn't have to wear a real bra. :)
Back when I first started wearing bras, my mom got me some that were like thin sports bras. I did need to wear a bra, but i also wanted to, because so many girls in my class were starting to wear bras. I would say, if she needs it, go with a sports bra/cami. Just explain to her that it's part of growing up - soon all her friends will be wearing them (it's about making her feel included, or like she is the same as her friends). Just buy something simple for her - let her know that once she's used to them you can go together and get something prettier. Maker her feel special and grown up, so it doesn't seem like a burden that she has to wear one. If she does not really need it just yet, wait a little while - once her friends start wearing them, chances are she'll want to too.
I didn't wear one until I felt comfortable with it, and that was well into sixth grade.
My dad ended up being the one who took me bra shopping.
"Dad, how do I know what to get?"
"I don't know. Just pick one that you like and try it on?"
I think you need to figure out weather it's her issue or yours. I think if she's old enough to need a bra, she's old enough to decide for herself weather she's going to wear it or not. Pressing the issue isn't necessary. Just go with it and don't stress. She'll figure it out. Just make sure bra's are available to her, and you're fine.
i decided to get one on my own, when... you know, lol.
@SeeBeeWrite@xanga - LOL props to your dad hahah
I started wearing sports bras when I was young. I started developing around 3rd-4th grade, so that was when I started wearing them. I was a B cup by 5th/6th grade and was wearing normal bras. I don't think I resisted at all, I'm sure I felt like it was more comfortable anyways. I actually am still a B cup and I'm a senior in high school xD
I wanted to wear a bra, even before I needed one. Once I got it and started wearing it, I wished I never said anything. I mostly wear sports bras though, and did all through high school because I was flat and played sports. I still wear mostly sports bras, even though I know sagging is a side effect...
I guess when my daughter is old enough, I'll try a camisole type of thing first. She'll probably be flat like me too...