Monday, 12 January 2009
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QOTD: Discipline and Punishment?
by Momaroo Team 
The post Funny Moments Disciplining My Kids included some fun stories of discipline, how do you discipline your kids? What type of punishment do you usually utilize? How were you punished as a child?
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I was disciplined as a child with a combination of spankings, time outs, and groundings. Grounding worked wonders on me once I hit middle school, time outs never worked (I liked being alone), and spankings worked wonders on me as a younger kid. We'll probably do the same combination with our kids. Right now my daughter is only 13 months so we use a combination of simple commands ("no," "don't throw," etc.), occasional swats, and taking toys away. We also ignore her if she tries to throw temper tantrums...that seems to work best for those.
I put my daughter in time out. She acts like it's torture, but I only keep her there for 2 minutes. We have a talk after her time-out and I set my prisoner free.
With our children we spank, we talk about what what he's being spanked for and then talk it over. We used to do the time out but it doesn't work for my children.
I was punished generally with talkings to. I really didn't need spankings as a child. I think if I remember correctly I only got a couple of them as a child because of the fear I put into either my mother or my grandparents. As a parent myself now I have not had to spank my children, but they are also 9 and 11 and are very good children. The most I have had to do is groundation and explanations of why its not acceptable.
@HeidiPerez@xanga - Exactly the same for us!
We've found that the more consistent we are with everything, the less any discipline is needed.
@Kates533@xanga - I very much agree !!! I know of a lot of parents that don't agree with spanking and don't agree with a lot of ways that I raise my children. But I know that it works for mine, and I want my children to be obiedient and listen to me when I speak to them. I want them to understand that when I tell them something I'm telling them for there own good not because I want to talk. My issue now is that my 16 month old doesn't want to listen and spanking doesn't seem to bother her in the least. Mind you I don't beat them.
Sent to room, smacked, no candy were punishments for me and my sister, my sister was once grounded for coming back later from playing at a friends house.
We got spanked.
Usually accompanied by a discussion of why we were receiving such punishment.
i was spanked. and when i would act out in a store, my dad would say to me "if you don't stop, i'll give you a real reason to cry." that would usually shut me up. i think spankings work effectively if they're used correctly. i don't have kids, but i know that i fear and respect my parents.
all that spanking and other forms of punishment does is teach the kid not to get caught and fear their parents. Personally, spanking and other forms of punishment is only good if a) is immediate after the action b) done every single time and c) used to eliminate a specific behavior. The problem with this is b)---> I doubt you can catch your kid EVERY time they do that act.....
Now doing other things like taking away something they like or adding something they dislike such as a chore....and following up these things (even punishment) with a reason of WHY they are being punished is pretty helpful....but of course you also have to take into account the kid's cognitive ability at this point etc etc....
Anyway, I was spanked and all it taught me was what i said in the first paragraph. I learned not to get caught, and my dad terrified me.