Wednesday, 31 December 2008
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Your Birthday Is Not Your Day...
Guest post submitted by Ms_Moca
On his 10th birthday, his father sat him down and said, "Son, from now on you will not be getting any presents for your birthday anymore."It wasn't because he was naughty. It wasn't because his parents didn't love him. And it wasn't because his parents couldn't afford it.
"Your birthday is not your day. It's your mother's day. Because it was the most painful day of her life. And she endured it willingly to bring you into this world. So everyday on your birthday, instead of receiving a present, you will be giving one...to your mother."His father handed him a bouquet of flowers and the boy delivered them to his mother.
This boy grew into a man. And still every year on his birthday, he would send flowers to his mother. He would cook her dinner and make his birthday her day. This little boy is my boyfriend.
It's a beautiful and selfless act that everyone should do for their mother. Instead of being demanding and acting as if your birthday is the day everyone else bows down to you, make it a special day for the woman who gave you life.Because on the day that we were born, we accomplished nothing special to deserve any merit or honor. It is our mothers who are the true warriors. And it is our mothers who deserve to be celebrated.
Do you do anything special for your mom on your birthday?
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Comments (367)
awws. thats so cute. it shows that with communication, you can really nurture your kid.
but i still think the kid should celebrate his birthday.
More proof that there should be a permit and an intelligence screening before procreation. How about celebrating God for the ability to create life? How about thanking Dad for paying the bills and clothing and providing after the initial time it took for me to take my first breath? Maybe thank the kid for going to school as asked and doing well enough to buy you anything at all ever. Afterall, you accomplished something 18 years prior to their becoming grown and starting their own family so maybe you could open your eyes to the accomplishments to others for a moment and celebrate their life instead of demanding more prolonged celebrations of your one donation to the formula. How about we take all spiteful "you owe me" drama out of this life instead and just enjoy people without a schedule or anyone having to submit their will to another? If this is your best imagined scenario then I weep for your children. This sounds like the self-involved ramblings of an underage, welfare baby-mama to me.
Although, if you were on a date and wanted to see the guy run like hell, this would be a great conversation starter to that end.
Do you really think a fit mother would hold childbirth over their child's head for their entire life? Sounds like passive aggressive emotional abuse. I wonder how little that child values their own life after being made to feel as if they were a chore the mother endured rather than a choice she made and gladly so?
In case you're wondering (about someone other than yourself), I've made my mom a cake and sang to her every birthday I was able to do so for 37 years. I do the same for my wife and my sister and not because they made me feel obligated, but because they are dear to me and I love them. No one had to put it on a calendar to coerce me.
You may want to brace yourself for your child's wrath when they figure out what a selfish, spiteful person you are. And then be prepared to be alone for Mother's day and your birthday; the two celebrations you already have focusing on you.
This is revolting. Someone call child services.
oh wow! so true, never thought of it like that! can't wait til my brithday now, will surprise mama xD
Good idea.
And this is where the children who don't know, or are not allowed to see their birth mother start to feel like shit.
I don't see that as being selfless. At least not as a ten year old. Maybe by the time the kid was old enough to really want to appreciate his mother for birthing him, then it would be selfless. Personally this sounds like a case of trying to control children to respect the adult by a means of re adjusting gift placement.
@ManoAngeliukai9902@xanga - I agree.
And what about the mothers that abandon there baby? should we be thankful for them too!?
I celebrate My day with gusto as well as My children's b-day they were my gift to the world! I want them to sing, dance, and be marry and enjoy life! Not be sad they caused me pain! That is just a side issue. That Father is sick and twisted. Like the kid should be sad he made his mom suffer. OK too bad that is how every child is born. No sense in being all sad about it. Celebrate life!
Oh wow, I never though that way.Its so truee!
I think that's a pretty cool idea, however.. Mothers day is generally for that specifically. That's a day that (in basic terms) says "Hey, thanks for bringing me into this world. I literally owe you my life. Lets celebrate."
A birthday, however, is a day (as others have already said thus far) where we celebrate being here in general. Because even though our mothers done something amazing to bring us here, we're gifts in ourselves and it does no harm to celebrate the day we came to be on this Earth.
Nevertheless, good post.
@RoAngie467 - me too!! i was born on my mom's birthday, so i hope the pain she had to endure was worth it when she had me :)
Um. No. That's why the mom has mother's day and her own f---ing birthday!
1. It's really funny that this was featured and I saw it on my birthday.
2. This is something that I've thought of often, but ironically I'm adopted. So I could never really pay my birth mom back.
3. I have an airplane day, the day I came to america to live with my adoptive parents, so I should be more grateful to them, esp on that day.
aww that's such a sweet idea =) i'll have to keep that in mind for next year
It is so weird to read this because my birthday was last frieday and the first thing that i said was thanks mom. Happy Birth Day. She was in labor with me for over 36 hours and it was hell but i was worth the wait. haa haa.
You are right , I never think this way so from to day on I will
Good inspiration
this is beautiful. thank you.
That is a wonderful idea. Although most people are too selfish to give up their birthdays (me included) this year i will buy my mom some flowers to say thank you. xx
your boyfriend's father sounds like an extraordinary man! i've never even thought of it that way. really though. && he taught his son well, you must have a gem of a bf :]
howeverrr.. i don't think that he [the dad] should have totally eliminated gifts for the kid : / Â it would have been good to still celebrate your bf AND his mom.